I feel so discontented with life, what is wrong with me, i feel like a ballon thats been let down?

Question

im on anti depressants and have just had a **** year, my grandpa died 3 months ago, followed by my gran last week. I hate my job and i want to go to uni, ive moved out of my parents into my own flat and feel so alone. i am in loads of debt and cant afforf uni but am still workin towards it, i wanna do nursing i think. at least im starting college next month, but on top of my full time job this is gonna be 3 nights per week which im kinda dreading cos i know ill be so tired. i have no boyfriend and all my friends are getting enaged and buying houses wit theirs, ive had loads of 1 night stands when i have been drunk which has left me feeling crap, and i just feel really bored and discontented with life. do you think aiming towards uni (if i somehow am able to afford it) is something that may make me feel better if i acheieve it? im also fat as fcuk, altho i have lost over a stone lately, i have also been binging and barfing, tho not very much and have packed it in more recently

Answer 1

yup life can be pretty shi-tty but try to focus on the positives there are people out there in much worse situations so think about it that way.

Cheer up :)

Answer 2

If you can, see a therapist. Depression and bulimia suck. A therapist can not only give you coping skills, but lend an ear so you can get things off your chest. If money is an issue, look for ways around that. Most areas have a low-cost service if you look. Also, if you're in a college town, look for a program there. Those just about to earn their degree need clinical experience...

Second, take care of you. Life throws us all kinds of curves, and you've gotten quite a few. Stop and take stock. What do you want? What makes you happy? What do you do for you? You've been in "reaction mode" for a long time. It's hard to stop reacting and start planning. But if you don't have a direction, you go nowhere.

Don't worry about men until you get yourself figured out. Once you get back on track, that will come. In the meantime, get a furry friend to offer you unconditional love and support. Caring for them gives you a purpose, too.

Figure out why you hate your job. Then, while you're still working, find another that won't have the same problem this one does. When you get a new job, quit the old. Find something you are interested in. You've got a whole internet full of things to explore. When you find it, study it, do it, love it.

But most of all, learn to support and nurture yourself. Yes, even love yourself. You are special and unique and amazing. There is only one of you in the whole universe. Just one. And you are the caretaker of that one. Be nice to yourself. Learn about you. Champion yourself.

Before you know it, others will jump on the bandwagon, too...

Answer 3

I have been there.

You say that you have an interest in nursing?

Then this is what you do.

You start being good to yourself. You are the one that needs care and attention - and you are the best one to give it to you.

Give yourself time to grieve for yourGrandad. Shed your tears for the times that will not come back and remember with love all the good times. Do not try to stem the tears - each one is a drop of medicine that willl help to heal you.
Cry for all the sadness in your life.

Then dry your eyes - wash your face and start looking forward.

First one hour at a time, then one day and then to next week.
Tiny baby steps to getting back to being happy.
And no matter how you feel right now - YOU SAY TO YOURSELF THIS IS NOT FOREVER AND I WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN. THIS TOO SHALL PASS. EVERYTHING DOES.

And you take one little problem at a time to try to sort out - do not just make lists of everything that is wrong - make lists of how you are going to be good to yourself each and every day.

Stop beating yourself up.
Would you beat up someone that you saw in as much pain as you are now - or would you offer them a shoulder to cry on and a little bit of hope?

Be your own best friend - give yourself a break, you are no less than a million people out here all trying to get it right - and there isn't one of them that hasn't made a few mistakes along the way. Even the friends that you think have got it may have problems that you would not swap yours for - no-one knows what goes on in another mans life.

I really do wish you every luck- you can do it if you just believe in yourself. I BELIEVE IN YOU!

Come on Princess - I shall be watching out for you on here for reports of your rise to the supreme heights of happiness!

Be nice to yourself - you are worth a lot more than those bad voices are telling you - SHUT THEM UP!

Answer 4

Modern culture lies to young women like yourself (and to young men for that matter, but not as blatantly) that life will always be outrageously perfect, your hair and makeup will be always at its most perfect, every last outfit you wear will be the most chic and stylish and all your boyfriends will be male model handsome, athletically built, and dressed like they walked off the pages of GQ and if anything in YOUR life doesn't follow along, you must be a terrible, terrible failure as a woman. That is a crock! Do not gauge the conditions of your life against what you seen in chick flicks, women's magazines, commercials, broadcast TV and print ads, and I think you will feel much better without such a biased perspective on life.

Answer 5

You`ll defeat each of those demons in time.

Instead oof viewing them as one big problem, see them as many small ones.

I think the first thing is to be pleased that you`re starting collegem, and the secong is that you have clear sensible aim, which s to be a nurse. Also, you`ve lost weight which is good.

When you start college things will improve socially as you`ll make more friends there.

Answer 6

Sorry to hear of your recent losses.
Life however does go on.

Work and study hard and you will achieve your goals.
Work out a plan to pay off your debts (pay off the highest interest ones first)

Happiness is the overcoming of obstacles towards a known goal and the contemplation of the pleasure that it will bring.

Go for it girl!

(And cut out the one night stands - you'll feel better about yourself!)

Answer 7

You get one life. Nobody is going to live it for you or fix it for you. Don't just give up. Write a list of the things you want to achieve and then figure out how to achieve them. Sitting around moaning will not make you feel better.

Answer 8

If possible tell your parents and go home. Make a plan to
Sought out your finances
Go home, until you can afford to be independent
Your weight is on the way down your in control
Go for it girl! Think of your nan and granddad helping you.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, you know our expectations of life often & usually don't, match up to what happens to us.

I agree that if you can you should move back home.

Answer 10

you feel the way you do because you keep looking outside yourself for happiness, you aren't going to find it. True contentment and happiness come from within.

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