What is the secret to doing so? Our group is self-combusting, and I'm at the center of the combustion. I don't know how I got there, but I've been wondering...are women even capable of getting along in groups for any length of time? HOW??
2007-08-29 08:56:52 · 9 answers · asked by julesl68 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
We are in our 30s. There are 5 total, but there are two that I seem to be having conflict with recently. These are the two that I hang around with the most. I feel like they're either hurting my feelings, or I'm hurting theirs...not intentionally, but while I accept apologies, they have been very mean and unapologetic about their short-comings. It's very upsetting...
2007-08-29 09:36:23 · update #1
Mury, it's good to know that it can be done! But I think I need a book or something to tell me how to make it work!
2007-08-29 09:38:14 · update #2
I'm talking "groups" of women. I have no problem with a one-on-one friendships. One of my best friends I've had since junior high, so no issues with that.
2007-08-29 09:40:32 · update #3
My best friends and I have been together for 8 years, and still going strong. We have rips at the seams at times, but that's when you patch things up. :)
2007-08-29 09:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by rosecolured 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think its very possible but its hard to form a group in which all women get along. Personally I've been friends with my bestest friend in the world for 5 years now and the relationship has gotten stronger and stronger over time. We met in college through her sister, then we became roommates, graduated etc. We were there for each other worst time, when I was homeless, when she got divorced etc etc. I think these elements made us closer and made out relationship stronger. But this is only between the 2 of us.
We have tried to add more friends among us. Other girls either through my network or hers but somehow we havent been able to form a group.
So I guess it is possible if you find the right few people to put in a group and they need to be able to accept each others differences and appreciate each others existance for the way they are. Just the way me and my best friend do. If I can find someone with this quality, she would be my next best friend along with the one I have.
2007-08-29 16:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pudge_Monsta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My older sister has had a close group of friends that has lasted since High School and longer. She has been friends with one since Kindergarten, and they are all now in their mid-thirties. They've shared everything, from their first boyfrineds, to moving out and going to college, getting jobs, married and having children, and they are still going strong. As to how they've done it I think it was a mix of a) good mix of personalities - they're all different in their own ways, but respect and appriciate that in each other. b) They keep in touch, and visit when it's possible. They've made their friendship a priority, and work to keep it going.
Another example is my mom's group of friends, that has lasted 30 years or so, and they got together over politics and religion. So, yes, it can be done.
2007-08-29 16:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by mury902 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that lives intersect for periods of time...sometimes long, and sometimes short. There is something to be learned and something to be taught, with each of us sometimes being the teacher, and other times the student. Once the purpose is served, however cold that may sound, often the relationship distances, and is often gone. Lamenting over that is a waste of time. There are some relationships that are meant to last a lifetime of support and great friendship, and others are designed to help one or the other, or both, through a difficult period.
It is also true that we make friendships amongst women that are not truly friendships...they are aquaintances or conveniences. And we often spend far too much time putting work into them, only to be terribly disappointed when they collapse - instead of recognizing that they were never truly strong in the first place.
Women, in particular, have difficult times maintaining friendships because we allow for others to cloud our judgements and we get sidetracked by jealousies and anger. Rarely do we allow ourselves to get angry with a friend, and then allow for a resumption of the friendship when the anger has passed. We tend to be more dramatic with the anger and do irrevocable damage to the relationship.
2007-08-29 16:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes you can.but over the years it will change.my best friend and i have been friends for almost 37 years! when we were young we partied together all the time.then over time we both got married and started our families.i left Mississippi and moved to Michigan she left and lived in Houston for awhile then back to Mississippi.then one day she called and was in trouble i told her to come on up she and her 3 kids could stay with me,my husband and our 5 kids.after a month or so she got her own place to live and we became very close again.then we both went to work ,things change we are always in and out of each others lives but close in our hearts.i love her like a sister.
2007-08-29 16:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely. I've been friends with the same group of women since I started college ten years ago. We have our ups and downs, but we get through it.
2007-08-29 16:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by wendy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Women with a strong identity are able to bypass the cattiness, jealousy, competition and all other issues that usually come in the way of friendships.
2007-08-29 16:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lioness 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Only biological sisters... Go figure...
2007-08-30 01:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by steve.57343 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been together and how old are you?
2007-08-29 16:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋