I don't know what to do with myself?

Question

I feel so lost right now... I feel like I have nothing worth living for... All I want is for somebody to need and to love me. I'm still young but I'm worried that this will never happen. I wake up every morning just crying because I know that there is nothing out there for me. My self-esteem has been completely damaged and I don't know how to get it back... I need ideas on what to do... and I would appreciate something other than "go see a psychiatrist" thanks

Answer 1

You just need to believe in yourself. The right person will come along, just give it time. Until then, ease up on yourself and enjoy life. Life is too short to be stressing out about.

Answer 2

I hate to say this but... you should seek professional help. It sounds as though you're depressed. Clinical depression can be very serious. You can even see your primary care physician - not just a psychiatrist. If you've been feeling "blue" and have been crying, feeling hopeless, and have trouble getting out of bed for more than 2 weeks now: seek help.

How old are you? If you're in your teens (15, 16) this may just be hormonal. I went through a really bad phase at 16 and my mom almost put me on prozac. I got through it on my own, but it was very difficult. However, if you feel at any point like harming yourself or wishing you were dead, you NEED to get help. Contact Crisis Intervention if you consider suicide.

If you are not considering killing yourself, and you don't believe you are clinically depressed, then you should start every morning by looking in the mirror and reminding yourself that you are a good, beautiful, and important person. It sounds cheesy, but self-validation does help. The first few weeks it might be difficult to say this to yourself and believe it. Given time, you will begin to believe it, and you'll feel far more positive about yourself. Exercise, a healthy diet, and plenty of rest will also help rejuvenate you and make you happier overall with yourself. Good luck!

Answer 3

Hey... just remember no worries... I'm sure there are lots of people out there that love you and need you... I actually need you to do something for me... stop being so down on yourself... they say it's easier to be down on yourself so why take the easy way out? you yourself have to make it happen... everyone is alive for a reason whether it's changing the world or just making one person smile... I went through a time like that and I realized what it was doing to me mentally and physically and I didn't like it... I started getting angry at everything and just became very negative... it really doesn't sound like you want to be a negative person... I don't think you need to see any doctors I just think you need to find something that makes you happy and roll with it... and for what it's worth I'm 25 and I still have no idea what I'm going to do with my life... it's tough but when I know I'll know... hopefully it hits me soon... lol!!! Mainly keep your head up and don't let negative people get you down and things will start falling into place you just have to have an open mind about it... go out try new things try to meet new people... I have faith in you and I think it's just a phase that a lot of people go through... another thing is writing... write out your feelings and who knows maybe one day you'll be a famous author... anyway good luck and smile once in a while trust me it's worth it

Answer 4

Okay then, go see a psychologist. They are much more useful then psychiatrists unless your problem is chemical. I don't think chemicals are completely causing this. If you need ideas about what to do then psychologists have more ideas than most people. Of course it could be that you already know what to do, but you have hidden the answer inside of you. A psychologist could also help you with that. Also, I'm not sure about the ethics of it, but maybe a psychologist might be able to tell you who will need and love you. They all will tell you that there is something out there for you. One thing I know from experience is that the answer to "What is worth living for?" leads to happiness. I used to be sad, but now I am happy.

Answer 5

What you need is to go volunteer at a homeless shelter, your school, join a church youth group and become a volunteer, or if you like animals, at the local animal shelter, and learn how to help others in need.
When you find yourself learning how to help others, you will gain friends. You will meet people whose problems are worse than your own. You will find fulfillment as being neccessary to another creature here on this planet. You will gain self-esteem as you gain skills and fill your life with activity and other people.
The more you do for others, the better you will feel about yourself.
You are not alone. If you go to any meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Ala-teen, drug abuse help groups, you will find dozens of others right in your neighborhood who feel exactly as you do.
Depression does hurt, but sitting down and crying never did anybody any good. Getting up and doing something, ANYTHING, will help you more than you realize.
Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

you don't have to feel like that dear....really you don't deserve all this pain, you know what you should do? take a paper and a pencil, right down your faults(physically and mentally) and then try to right the answers to every fault you have starting from the easy ones(to boost your self esteem) if by any chance you couldn't find the right answers then you can always search the net (health, beauty, and any kind of tips) remember that you are your own savior !! no one can help you! and i bet if you just relaxed for 10 minutes and drank some cold water you would have a different point of view about yourself , every problem has a solution and it starts when you say "Yes i can do it , i cannot loose to something so simple as that" if you became confident and loved yourself inside and out believe me you will find plenty of people who love you back!!! : )

Answer 7

I know it is hard to digest while you are feeling this way, but you have to love yourself before anyone can love you the way you want them to. Due to the fact that you are young, you still have time, remember that. You never know what tomorrow has in store for you. To get your self-esteem back, I think you should try doing something that makes you happy, whether it is garden work, bowling, helping others in need by volunteering at a homeless shelter, animal shelter or anywhere, tutoring, you know things like that. Hope that helps.

Answer 8

What I have found that works every time it's put to the test is to get out of 'yourself'....Go volunteer some time at a food bank or rest home or someplace like that where you can "help others". You would be surprised how much better it will make you feel as you help other people with their struggles in life. It will give you a sense of purpose while building up your self-esteem. It's gets your mind off of you and it "will" get you out of that rut...I promise you, it works....

Answer 9

I don't know your personal situation, but as a nurse, it sounds like you could be suffering from depression. I know how you feel though. I am very young myself and there are times when I don't know what I want to do with my life. It is so easy to get frustrated and want to give up. I hope you won't though, because there are so many wonderful things in store for you, you just have to look for them and work for them. Hang in there, I lost my father and my best friend a couple years ago. I couldn't find one reason to smile or anything to look forward to. But if I hadn't toughed it out, I wouldn't have met my husband(and the greatest man ever) just 3 months later. Try to find the strength to persevere...there may be great things just around the corner.

Answer 10

See people do show love even people who dont know you right now they are showing compassion to someone they dont even know by answering your questions with lengthy replies of consolation and advice

My advice dont worry about what happened in the past look to the future as it holds new excitng possibilities every thing you see is a possibility waiting to happen.You just have to look and dont worry love comes and goes belief me it hurts to lose someone who you cared about deeply but thats not important its what you do after you have fallen down do you sit down and cry as the world moves on without you or do you get up and face the day new challanges,new experiences new hassles,new joys.