I always sees myself as different, a guy who spend most of his days at home, doesn't have much friends and can't socialize well at all. I always runs out of things to say to people. But everyone else I know is the complete opposite of me
I feel like I can never be one of them, probably won't even find a life partner (who wants to marry any alien anyway)
Is there anyway I can do to help myself?
2007-08-29 06:47:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
sry for my poor english
2007-08-29 06:48:16 · update #1
First of all, stop being so self-centered and negative. Your opening sentence reflects a very self-absorbed perspective - it's your own way of telling yourself you're unique and special - even if it is in a negative way. Stop being down on yourself and wallowing in self-pity. The truth is, most people feel the same way you do quite often.
Your dichotomy of "me vs. everyone else" is a characteristic of psychopath tendencies, which if not guided, could lead you to severe mental illness, suicide, or murder. But don't despair - you just have to be aware of the situation. Psychopathy is defined by an inability to empathize, and a feeling of separateness from others.
When you realize that all existence is one, and you are no different than others - then you can start to make progress. Don't belive the false paradigm of the oppressors that tells us we are separate beings trapped inside shells of meat. The truth is we are all different perspectives of the same Awareness. What you fear
in others is really what you fear in yourself.
Practically, think about what other people like to talk about. If you have interests, find others who share those interests, and you can talk about your common interests with them. When you meet people, asking (intelligent) questions is a good way to get them to open up, as long as it doesn't come across as interrogation, but genuine interest.
2007-08-29 07:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing yourself as a "poor-me-one". Nothing is wrong with you. You are different. What's wrong with not being part of the 'status quo'? And stop calling yourself an alien!
Look at the life today. Why do you want to be like everybody else who is trying to find his way in this confusion? What makes you feel the rest of the world has it all together?
Love you for who you are. Being different is wonderful and as soon as you start seeing you as wonderful, so many people would start noticing your good qualities and want to be like you.
2007-08-29 13:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have the same problem. But this is my first year in collage and i got a course called psychology. And i think it can help. So search on the internet while you are home to find out more.
2007-08-29 13:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by abdullah_aamer2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut off the computer, go out into the real world and learn to be less afraid of everyone else. Here is a big pointer, learn to not care what everyone is thinking of you.
2007-08-29 13:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just become comfortable wih who you are..once you do that other's will see you as someone with confidence!
2007-08-29 13:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by lee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋