I think our friend overreacted. What is you opinion on this?

Question

Last weekend, my husband and I were invited to our friend's house on the ocean. We spent Saturday night together, we even paid for our friend's drinks and dinner and then on Sunday, after my husband helped our friend doing some yard work, we left. The next day, our friend calls me, saying that we are "really rude". I was surprised by this accusation and found out that the reason for this harsh judgment was that we left some glasses in the sink at the house. I said that we innocently forgot about the glasses and why he is making such a big deal out of it. He replied "this is not a hotel". After this, I got really offended, and just ended the conversation. What do you guys think about this?

Answer 1

thats no friend!! Total over reaction!!

Answer 2

Sounds like he overreacted... but it seems to me there must be more to this story you're not telling. Glasses in the sink are not a big deal, so what's the real problem here? Does your friend feel used by people coming to their house on the ocean just to have a free place to stay? Sounds like you were generous in paying for dinner and helping with the yard work though, so I don't know. Call him in a day or two and ask if he's forgiven you. Hopefully he'll say something like "I'm sorry I was such an ***, I saw someone littering and I took it out on you". And/or send him a nice thank you note for having you over and let it go. Sometimes people are weird.

Answer 3

Wow, sounds like THEY'RE the rude ones! When you open up your house to guests, it is your responsibility to treat them as such. Glasses in the sink are no big deal at all- I fully expect my guests to leave the dishes for me when they come over, because I want them to focus on having a good time. It sounds like you were more than generous during your stay-paying for drinks, helping with yardwork. If they can't overlook something as innocuous as a couple of glasses unintentionally left behind in a sink after all that, then they are not friends you want to have. Besides, even if they thought it, HOW RUDE to actually tell you about the glasses???

Answer 4

Your friend definitely overreacted. After paying for drinks and dinner then doing yardwork, leaving a glass or two in the sink shouldn't have been such a big deal. I'd be just as offended by that remark as you are. The guy sounds like a jerk.

Answer 5

I wonder why he chose to call you rude over a couple of glasses in the sink. First of all, you are guests in their home and unless specified you shouldn't have to wash and put away their dishes. I'd give it a couple of days, and then perhaps try and call. Find out what the real problem is, cause honestly, nobody truly fights over dishes. Maybe something else happend and he's using the dishes as an excuse to get mad at you. If he's a good friend, he'll let you know the real reason and it's worth working it out. Oh and don't let the conversation steer to something else, be persistant.

Answer 6

Sounds like your friend is really rude to call a GUEST to tell them they were rude after a weekend visit. You were guests and it sounds like you were more than pleasant and trying to be good guests. Maybe he is actually upset about something else but did not know how to approach it? I think you can handle it a variety of different ways. Write him off as a jerk and discontinue your friendship, ask if there was something else bothering him that made him so upset and explain that you really thought you were being good guests/you would never have meant to do anything to upset him etc, or just pretend like none of it ever happened. Just depends on your history with him and how much you have invested in the relationship. Tell him never to have my parents for a visit since thay can't even get their glasses to the kitchen, much less to the sink lol!

Answer 7

Your friend was really out f order. Even after your husband helped him, and you paid for his drinks etc he had a go at you because you left some glasses in the sink?? I think you should have a word with him about who is rude!!!

Answer 8

you should be offended. This is the stupidist thing I have ever heard. Normally If I am at someone's house however, I'll typically ask, where should I put my glass, plate, etc. The person will normally say oh just leave it on the counter, or put it in the dishwasher.

If they got pissed and said, this isn't a hotel, wash it yourself, in any kind of serious way, I'd think the person was nuts. Guests aren't typically expected to wash dishes.

Answer 9

My goodness, he definitely overreacted! Leaving glasses in the sink is not a cause to be so rude - your the guests, they're the hosts. They invited YOU to their home. You paid for dinner and helped with the yard work. That is ridiculous. See if they call and apologize, don't waste your time.

Answer 10

That your friend is a drama queen and was really looking for free labor and you two to be obligated to him for the entire weekend and waiting on him hand and foot.

I would let this one blow over there it isn't anything more that you can do about the two glasses in the sink and you're leaving before Simon says you can leave.

Next, time if there would be one, I would make sure of all the rules before I go.

Answer 11

You were guests, that wasn't rude! I think he is very rude to be calling you and saying that--especially after you guys paid for dinner and drinks. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that anymore. Geez, you even put the glasses in the sink...some people wouldn't even do that!