be willing to compromise your own wishes for those whom you love, even if it was at the cost of your own happiness.
2007-08-29 06:32:08 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
Sorry if the question was not clear, but I am not talking about a family situation. I am specifically referring to my career with which I am not satisfied. If I decide to change it I will be happier, but will disappoint people I care about.
2007-08-29 08:33:28 · update #1
Hello Farah,
What a tough dilemma you r facing......
You would think i would be the worst person to give u a good answer since i am without doubt the biggest people pleaser ever. But i have faced this problem before with work and i can only tell u my experience....
Honey people live their lives according to what suits them and makes them happy, that means its a choice made by u and only u, others we love can offer us valued opinions and have the right to feel sad or even let down by us, but they have no right to live our lives and make our choices.
You have to really consider all aspects of yr problem, listen to yr heart and yr mind and consider all other solutions before taking any step in yr career. If u do that, honestly no matter what the outcome is u will never regret taking a decision, but rather u will accept whatever happens and be happy with it.
Finally Allah (SWT) is always there for us, pray estekhara and u will be guided to what is right for u.
2007-08-29 20:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not far at all, since I need to be happy too.
My happiness matters to me as much as the people that I'm with, if I'm not happy it will start to show in who and how I am as a person. While compromise is good to a point, not being happy at all isn't an option for me.
When you deny your self the happiness that your entitled just to please others you short change your self. Eventually you would become a person that wouldn't be much fun to be around at all. So, self denial is only good to a certain point.
Best wishes!
2007-08-29 06:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love does many things and compromise it one of them. I hate the opera, but go for someone special. Naturally she does things for me, like attends sporting events. It goes both ways. I my wife or Family members wanted me to do something You have to wiegh the pro's and Con's and make your choice on each individual event. Would I risk my entire 401k to invest in a stock my wife heard about on the Howard Stern show. I don't think so, but I would investigate the stock and if it was something she really wanted we would find a point to invest that would be comfortable.
2007-08-29 06:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation and why. But only if it felt like an equal compromise from both their and my side, would I give an inch in my own wishes in most instances.
2007-08-29 06:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by ♥-Due June 7th!-♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good marriage consists of daily compromises, but I never feel it's at the cost of my own happiness. My happiness comes when my hubby and son are happy!
2007-08-29 06:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not stay active in a career with all its obligations when you wish to leave it. You spent such a long time at work leaving your house, husband and kids to fulfill your duties. How can you do that if your happiness is to leave it. You will not be able to make everybody else around you happy if you are not happy.
2007-08-29 09:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Balsam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not clear. If you mean husband, sons or parents that's normal to take them in consideration any way.
If you mean colleagues, they are part of the equation of the work place. I mean you consider everything in a work place (income, location, interest, colleagues .. etc.) if the whole thing makes you satisfied or agree, it means it's right to stay there. If not you can keep the social contact with colleagues by any way.
2007-08-29 09:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Wise Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on what was expected of me to give up, and why. The WHY is the important question. Think over all the reasons to do something, and all the reasons not to do something. Then follow your heart
2007-08-29 06:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Pancake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will compromise just as far as my action will affect just two of us...because if my action will have bad consequences in other people lifes - I won't compromise!
2007-08-29 06:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by victoria_rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on the situation, and the situation of the one I loved, I would do it unconditionally in certain circumstances. I suppose I would let all my happiness go if it was a do or die circumstance. However; if it was not, I would not go too far. all depends
2007-08-29 06:37:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sherann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋