I was out to dinner with a group of friends and there husbands. I excused myself to the ladies room, when I came out of the ladies room. My friend husband was standing there and pushed me back into the ladies room throw me up against the wall and KISSED ME.. I pushed him away and he told me he has wanted to do that for the past year and He can’t stop thinking about me. Her husband is good-looking man, but I would never do anything like that to her. I was in SHOCK. When I got back at the table he kept staring at me.
She has already told us in private that she cant stand other women staring at her husband. She knows he good-looking, but have some respect for her at least. I don’t want to tell my friend. I known her from High School I don’t want to lose our friendship.
2007-08-29 05:18:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your friend...well if she is YOUR FRIEND then you tell her and get it over with.. I bet your *** your not the first woman he's kissed.
2007-08-29 05:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you lose this friendship, it won't be because of anything you did wrong. I want that to be the number one thing you take away from this. Your friend is married to a loser. He is an affair looking for a place to happen. The next time an invite is sent out, tell your friend you cannot attend. When she asks you why, very very gently tell her, and tell her that because you love HER so much, you will not be around her husband any longer. She will probably have a fit and cut you out of her life...for now. Someday though, she will be back, alone, and apologize to you for the way she's behaved. This marriage is on the death knell.
2007-08-29 05:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are her friend so therefore you owe it to her to say something about it . I don't mean threaten anybody or get involved. I mean, you should at least tell the man to please tell her that he kissed you and tell him if he doesn't tell her, then you'll figure out a way to tell her because I'm quite sure it KILLS you inside everytime you get around her and him (or just her). It's so much worse if she never finds out. If my husband was lusting my bestfriend (cause by the statement that you said he made you, it sure sounds as though he's infatuated with you) and she knew about it and never told me, I'd be deeply hurt because she is suppose to be a FRIEND and sister to me and as a friend, she supposed to support and guide me through life by sharing things with me. I'd be more angry at my husband but I believe that its really a personal choice as in how you tell somebody someone's hurting them. Are you to look like you're jealous or are you to look like you don't care? Its a lose-lose situation so you really need to make a decision of how you want to be perceived by her. Remember, actions speak louder than words. You have a choice to make...hope you make the best one, whatever it may be! God Bless You!
2007-08-29 06:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by hartbreaker00003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. If she is a true friend, she will understand you are just trying to be a friend and let her know what her husband did. If she tries to blame you and gets mad, she really wasn't as true of a friend as you thought. If my husband had done that to one of my friends, I would want my friend to tell me. I would be more upset later if she found out from someone else and did not tell me. What if he tells her you came on to him. Then it looks like you were the one with something to hide. You need to be honest and up front and deal with the out come. If you aren't honest it looks like you are guilty. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-08-29 05:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by D TRAIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its better you meet with your friend alone instead of with her husband, and if you do go out, bring along a date, so that he gets the picture and lays off. Even if its a friend, he doesn't need to knw that, neither does ur friend! You and your friend dont necessarily all have the same friends. Kinda like protection!
Good luck!
2007-09-01 16:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by whitegold03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not your fault and if you know her from high school you have an obligation to tell her what kind of a jerk she is married to. Just imagen how many other women he might've kissed. If it was your husband you would want to know. I know I would.
2007-08-29 08:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by nononsense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. Just forget it happened. It's unfortunate, but if you tell her, you will be seen as the bad guy. Chances are she'll work things out with him (or so she thinks) and will never speak to you again. In these situations, the wife can't see who is right and who is wrong. I'm sorry you are going through this...it sucks, i know!
2007-08-29 05:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you didn't say if you kissed him back. sounds like you found it kind of erotic. i find it hard to believe that he pushed you into the bathroom against your will, then kissed you against your will. sounds like you might not be as good a Friend as you think.
2007-08-29 05:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to loose her then you need to be honest. How would it look if another year goes by and then she finds out? It looks like you were stepping in. Be her friend and explain it just as you did here.
2007-08-29 05:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her what happened now, she just may be hiding the fact he always does that to her. He's an ------- for be dishonest to her. The fact is your friends and friends don't do that to each other. Tell her now.
2007-08-29 05:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by Petunia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! the longer you wait the worse its going to get you dont need to go through life with this on your chest. (unless you wanted this to happened too and you liked it and you want it to happen again maybe more too)
2007-08-29 05:28:14 · answer #11 · answered by McDaniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋