Why are Women intimidated if they date a PhD Holder?

Question

I've put in 6 years of study at USC School of Pharmacy to obtain my Doctorate in Pharmacy Degree. During that time frame, I was hoping to find someone from my classmates to be a potential soul mate since the laborious hours of study would create confidence with a fellow colleague. So the next logical step was to search from the outside. On my first attempt in exercising my candor, the first three women knew I was a PhD holder in Pharmacy. Yet to my surprise, the relationship only lasted a few weeks. At a second attempt, I decided to maintain a low profile. I did not disclose my actual status but somehow these girls were good Sherlock Holmes. So from the aforementioned scenarios, how can I avoid any type of behavioral ennui? From what I've experienced, does destiny determine our faith? Anyone with the background or expertise provide me a feedback. Please bear in mind that I maintain a low profile. I take the person for who she is and educational accomplishments does not matter to me.

Answer 1

The only common denominator these women have is you. Perhaps you keep picking the same "type". Look for someone different, someone who has a different destination and ambitions that you can learn from (and that can learn from you). Your relationship will be far more interesting then.

And don't hide facts about who you are - that falls in the "playing games" department. Nobody likes to find out you've been hiding something about your everyday life.

Answer 2

Gotta challenge you here.

How do you know it was intimidation that drove the first few away?

I'm dating a great catch right now. I'm lucky to have captured her interest. Beautiful Ph.D. student studying the placebo effect in the brain. I'm just a simple Master's student not intending to make much money in my career.

You could call it intimidation on my part, but I honestly think it was more like caution. She had the looks and the smarts to be verrry stuck up and into her own success. I dated cautiously at first. When I found out for good that she is indeed not like that, I figured we had more potential.

You don't give off a vibe that you're pretty into your own success, do you? Whether you hide the fact that you're a Ph.D. or you advertise it is irrelevant. The general attitude may show through anyway if you feel really proud of yourself all the time.

I have to ask these things because you deserve to feel really good about all you've accomplished, but giving off a very humble "more-interested-in-you- than-in-me" vibe is harder than defending a dissertation for some people.

Answer 3

I dont know what type of woman you are attracted to, but a lot of women and vice versa, are intimidated by higher education. They feel disadvantaged and probably worry that its just a game for you to pick them up and you wouldnt stick around for long. There are also women who are attracted to educated men, its a matter of telling them apart and going for the ones that appreciate education.