I am a stay at home mom and he has been hiding all of the money from me for over a month...
2007-08-29 05:03:56 · 15 answers · asked by Bien Chula 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a SAHM you have just as much right to any choices made about money, he should have talked to you first. On the other hand, if he was in need and your husband had to do it right away, then kudos to your man for giving the helping hand. Before you get mad, find out the whole story and just let him know it makes you uncomfortable.
2007-08-29 05:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would borrow 100 to your friend without telling him. LOL.
100 isn't that significant . Did the freind repay ? Are you sure it's a loan or did he use the money for something else. The 100 dollars wouldn't bother me ... the hiding money for a month ... would concern me.
All accounting / money matters should be open.
2007-08-29 12:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances are tricky. You should both sit down and work out a budget. Your husband's workplace should have an employee assistance plan, where counselors are available free of charge to help out in this area.
If you're mad at your husband for using that money to help somebody out, you shouldn't be. But you should be upset that he did it without your consent. Talk to him about it and work up a plan. That's the best thing you can do.
2007-08-29 12:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by samans442 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean he lent $100 to a friend or borrowed $100 from a friend? Either way he should always consult you on things like this.
2007-08-29 12:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've lent money to friends before without telling my wife - to me it's not a big deal but it's never more than $100 either and to me it's not a big deal. But I don't regulate money to her or hide it either to me that's the part that I find strange.
2007-08-29 12:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you tell your husband to be honest with you when it comes to money in the household. Let him no that he does not have to hide things from you. To be honest, this is one of the reasons people divorce.
2007-08-29 12:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job and have your own money. I know day care is expensive, but if you're hurting for money, a full time job will pay for day care and other things that your family needs.
2007-08-29 12:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a part time job with flexible hours and have your own money. Stop depending on men. Respect yourself a little more.
2007-08-29 12:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be more upset that he withholds money from you. normally,i wouldn't care about the loan. it's only a hundred bucks and friends do that kind of thing all the time but, if he has that money plus the rest that he holds, it kind of makes one wonder what's going on.
2007-08-29 12:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't believe that it is right for him to lend money that is for both of you and the household and the family first. don't come out all mad and yelling, but just tell him what you think about the issue of money...
2007-08-29 12:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋