what would you do
2007-08-29 04:46:46 · 9 answers · asked by whatever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a husband like this. If they are lying about the littlest things, you are in a world of trouble. You can't trust them about anything. My husband cheated on me and lied to me and he should know by now I do not ask a question I don't already know the answer to. When he knew I knew the answer, he would still lie to me. I found out all the information on my own and come to find out I knew more about the women he was sleeping with than he did. All I say is don't lie to a woman, it can bite you in the ***. I would cut your losses and move on before you get hurt really bad. I sure wish I would have. Hang in there. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-08-29 05:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by D TRAIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no way defending or justifying a Husband for lying to is wife most of the time. For example a guy will tell a lie to his wife when ever he is caught off guard when a question is asked that he may be trying to hide something. Or he may tell a little lie because he'd rather fib than have a blown out confrontation. For the most part men don't like to receive a third decrees about everything they do in their lives as if they were a criminal, or incompetent. If it is a major issue that a man is lying about that is a different story all together. Another thing a man doesn't like to always be put on a spot, that would place him in a position that he would have to lie. Most men resent being embarrassed in public or in front of family members. They use lying as a mechanism of defense. Another thing a man likes to believe that he can make a decision on his own without being persecuted for everything he does. It's not the question as much as how the question is asked. When you as a woman demand an answer from a man, he probably will lie, because he felt that is what he needed to do, and the lie was the answer that he hoped you wanted to hear. Plus the fact when demanding from him you have placed him in a position where he is being challenged and you are testing his manhood. If you can't communicate with him about his lying especially a boldface lie, then maybe you should just leave and move on with your life. If it ticks you off so much that it makes you unhappy, and can't handle the lying then you need to change your address. Life is not perfect, and I'm sure someone told you, or you heard that somewhere in your life. So if the lying bugs you so much, and it has ruined your trust and love for him you need to do something about it. Have any of the lies he has said caused a serious problem or jepordized your marriage in any way? Have you stopped loving him because of his lies? Have you found out that the stuff he does (without you knowing) has seriously offended you? Or, is it the fact that he just didn't tell you beforehand? You know of course some women are very controlling of their men to the point where he feels he can't even go to the restroom without permission..My final word on this matter is you must weigh just how much trouble he has caused because of his lying, and is the price of divorce the answer and solution to the problem. This you must decide what to do.. Good Luck
2007-08-29 15:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has been doing this to me for the past couple of years. What I found to be efficient is to find your own comfortable zone which he is not involved in. If you love to read, write, take drives, just do it without him. Or while he is in the house or out of the house, just do your own thing not needing him. He will get jealous or wonder what you are doing and eventually stop his lying because he will be stopped in his tracks too worried about your knew found life and calmness without him.
2007-08-29 12:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Bien Chula 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want a close relationship, have the best of life with out him. I don't mean divorce today, just open up your life today and look forward to everything as though he doesn't exsist. Don't consider him part of your life. Doesn't sound like he is.
2007-08-29 12:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by so tired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds like he doesn't care about the fact that he has a wife. That is no way for you to live. Find your happiness.
2007-08-29 12:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling to open the communication and get my marriage back on track.
2007-08-29 12:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by SugarFreeRedBull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a tracker on his car and find out what he is really doing.
2007-08-29 11:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by lynddd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if its all the time includes money maybe i would leave and go elsewhere
2007-09-01 23:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him something to worry about!!!!
2007-08-29 13:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Petunia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋