7 yrs. and i still fill not love what should i do
2007-08-29 03:32:41 · 19 answers · asked by flowback master 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may have problems, but I feel if she was in it for just the money she would not still be with you after 7years. Sometimes people just get comfortable and do not want to rock the boat and deal with problems because the are scared of losing their spouse or getting out of their comfort zone.
I think you may need to rock the boat and nicely let her know that you feel your relationship could be better.
The question is do you still want the marriage and if you do fight for it. I have been married for over 11 years and I know sometimes it is rough. I can never judge anyone when it comes to marriage cause I know how tough it can be. Keep your dreams of how you think marriage can be and walk towards it.
2007-08-29 15:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by 007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth if the matter is money does come into consideration in a marriage. My husband just got a better job and I feel very fortunate. My husband happily contributes financially to the situation. I care for him & love him but I think the movie ideas of "being in love" aren't reality. If you've made a decision to stand by your partner then you will stand by them and try to make the relationship better. To say "it's just for the money" is a cop out. What are you doing to make your wife's life happier? Do you spend time with her? Do you know what types of activities, television shows, or clothes she likes?
2007-08-29 03:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Missy Saffron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say no love,, do you mean no passion or affection. Does she tell you that she loves you but not really display it physically.. some people are funny about the way they show love.. especially if they were raised in a family where no love was shown when they grew up... definitely talk to her and tell her how you feel.. i wouldnt immediately say that you think she's only with you for the money.. just ask her what she thinks of you and does she love you.... you will know based on her response..
2007-08-29 03:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by drew71670 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it could be just money if you had a lot when you married her. But you should be able to tell the difference. Its a big difference if someone love you for who you are or for what you have.
2007-08-29 03:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by IggySpirit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Limit her money to very little, just enough for her to get by and see if this changes her. It should never be about the money. Money should be a perk. I would just want a nice guy that will not cheat and just love who I am. This is a tough situation you are in. Hang in there. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-08-29 03:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by D TRAIN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not only about love
Marriage is not only about money
The reason you got married is you want to be with each other, good or for worse.
Respect to each other will hold you close together, if you dont have that, every day will be like a fight.
2007-08-29 03:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by civilestimator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 44 years old? Grow up! What are you looking for? She is not your momma, she is your wife. Maybe you need to look at the way you treat her.
2007-08-29 03:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is make decisions that make you happy.If you don't feel loved then you probably aren't.If you always knew this then this is what you got.Life isn't as long as it seems and when you don't feel loved you feel alone.Get yourself together and end the games.find someone who wants to love and be loved.If not then loving your self is better than being with someone who doesn't love you.
2007-08-29 03:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be in a relationship you are not comfortable in? I think you should cut the benefits and see what happens... if she leaves you because of this, then you know she was all about material things. if no attitude changes, then you know she really loves 'you'. put her to the test.
2007-08-29 03:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your wife if you aren't happy with the answers you get, then consider ending the marriage.
2007-08-29 03:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋