My marriage is over, because my husband cheated on me.
2007-08-29 03:31:12 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry your marriage is over but realize that if he cheated on you, he's not the man you thought you married. Grieve for the person you thought you married.
Realize that not all men are pigs. Granted, there's plenty of pigs out there but men like your ex give the rest of them a bad name.
2007-08-29 03:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that honey. what you need to decide is if you can forgive your husband and give your marriage a second chance. I don't for one minute think cheating is acceptable, but you are hurting at the moment and if you have been married for a long time is it worth throwing your marriage away for one mistake, if he has done this before then I would pack his bags for him. this is a really hard one as no one can help you make this dissuasion for you. I just hope that you can get your life back how you want it and be happy again and wish you all the luck you need, keep your chin up and I hope you feel happy and at peace again soon
2007-08-29 03:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you still love your husband or really want to end your marraige but you don't have to cos he cheated. If it was a one off thing and he is genuinely sorry and you think you could forgive him then maybe you can work it out over time(if that's what you want of course) People can be very quick to say dump them and move on but it is not always as clear cut as that if you love the person. Trust will always be a big issue but he will know that and will have to prove himself to you again. Anyways don't make any rash decisions. Take a break and go away for a few days to gather your thoughts. Whatever happens I wish you luck.
2007-08-29 03:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be a great shock and hurt a lot. But the fact that your husband had an affair doesn't necessarily mean that your marriage is over. If you love him, and he honestly regrets his mistake, you may be able to forgive him. Perhaps you can talk openly - not right now, but a little later. Wishing you all the best!
2007-08-29 03:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation to be in. It will break you down so quickly. It is better to move on and find someone who will love you for who you are and turn to you for everything. If you were to stay together, it would eat you up inside thinking about it all the time. Relationships are built on trust and if the trust can not be re-established, it is better to find someone you can trust. Remember it is not the end of the world, it just may seem like it. You can recover from this and be a much better and stronger person. Hang in there and GOOD LUCK!!
2007-08-29 03:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by D TRAIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage isn't necessarily over, there are reasons people cheat and it is usually because they are missing something in the relationship. (I no I cheated)Im not saying it isn't wrong it's a terrible painful experience. If you and your husband choose to work it out. You can. Don't give up until you know that's what you want.
2007-08-29 03:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by karen1y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So sorry to hear that, but know how you feel, been there. Hopefully you can go out and found someone who really cares and would never hurt you like that, I know I have, it took awhile but am now happier than I have ever been.
As to the people with the 'where's the question' comments, I know I sometimes ask that but I think in this case a little bit of sympathy wouldn't go amiss, obviously she is hurting and just needs to feel some people care
2007-08-29 03:51:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tom M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a definite reason for divorce.. is he willing to stop the affair or was it a one time thing? Are you willing to give him a second chance and try counseling?? it would be hard.. but i guess it all depends on how bad you and he still want to be married.. if NO then get rid of him because it will be very hard to trust him again and it will drive you nuts everytime you dont know where he is. trust me i went through the same thing with my ex wife.
2007-08-29 03:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by drew71670 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You just found freedom again and you've just found out that you've married the wrong guy, that means, YOU ARE SINGLE AGAIN and you have a chance to find the right one. You are so lucky! Much more luckier than those who are still suspecting their husband and yet couldn't find any evident but damn sure something is not right. Congrats again.
2007-08-29 08:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine cheated on me throughout our marriage, so all I can say is a leopard never changes its spots.
2007-08-29 09:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋