Are you the favorites?
2007-08-28 23:52:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I am a grandma to 3 wonderful granddaughters and I dont mind sharing them with the other grandparents.... Kids thrive with loads of love and the more the better, I want the best for my grandchildren, so the more people that love them the better...... But I also know my grandkids prefer to stay with me not the other ones.. lol
2007-08-28 23:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by CherryD 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Considering that my grandsons don't seem to HAVE any other caring grandparents (although they are out there--and rather well to do. I guess they're worried that something might be "expected" of them!), I guess the answer would be NO.
My youngest daughter's husband was always told that his parents would "allow" his family to come and visit for a holiday meal, but that "everyone" had to conform to their house rules (even when the kids were babies). Part of the "house rules" was that everyone had to eat what was served to them. The "other" grandma is apparently a lousy cook, and my daughter had trouble choking down her "portions". But when the other grandmother got mad at her 18 month old son for not eating her food, my daughter just drew the line very hard on that one "You WILL NOT yell at my son for not eating this JUNK that you call food! He is used to food that actually TASTES GOOD!!" And that was the last meal they suffered at the other grandmother's table.
Now that my daughter and her husband have been separated (for more than five years) the other grandparents are content to just drop off "their" Christmas gifts with their son who delivers them.
As to my oldest grandson...his grandmother told him when he was eight years old that she no longer wanted to see him because she had "better things" to do. This was after his visiting at least once every month for years. The truth was that she now had other grandchildren to spoil and he was no longer "the only", nor was his presence required, it seems. He DID get to see her for a few minutes this past Christmas when he was at his Dad's house, and she dropped in...she had "forgotten" to bring a Christmas gift for him, however, although she remembered the gifts for her other three grandsons in that house.
So, am I the favourite? Being as, for all intents and purposes, I am the ONLY then I guess I am the favourite.
2007-08-29 01:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I rarely see my granddaughters since they live quite a way away. Their other grandparents also live on the same acreage where they and their parents live so they are much closer to them then they are to me.
One of my granddaughters is now 14 and the other is 12.
Not only am I not their favorite grandparent but I suspect, given their age, that they barely remember that I exist. And, I can understand this for it is similar to my experience as a youngster. My grandparents lived a long way away and I only saw them occasionally so when they died I barely noticed.
2007-08-29 04:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have a problem at all if they would make the same effort I do to enjoy the kids while they are young. I am the favorite to all 3 of them and technically I am the step grandparent.
2007-08-29 02:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a grandparent but would like to speak about experiences I've had with my mother and my mother in law. Let's just say that my mother thinks she has precedence over the kids because I, (her daughter) had the children. Now, she is convinced that when/if my brothers have children then the grands will be closer to their spouses mother. Really weird huh?
2007-08-30 02:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by ajnme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But ,Of Course I Am The Favorite! lol! I don't mind sharing. I think that all of us are important to our Grands. Grandparents have so much to offer.
2007-08-29 06:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a good question!
well speaking from the parent side of things rather than grandparent, i think some grandparents do feel slighty pushed out in some situations.
example. last year was my sons first christmas, and there are three sets of grandparents in our family. all three couples of grandparents were worried they wouldn't get to see him on christmas day. my partner and i, instead of spending christmas day at home, spent christmas afternoon trekking round each of the three households to make sure no-one felt left out. not complaining, my son had a ball!!! but what a tiring day!!! result: no-one felt left out, each of them had an appreciation for what we did for them and each started accepting that they had to share him. dare i say it? life is much quieter these days.......
2007-08-29 00:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I think it's the other way around. I live in a different city, about 30 miles away. But the other grandma, is there and sees her constantly. I have not seen her since her birthday in May. If I'm lucky maybe 3-4 times a year at best. That's ok, what goes around, comes around. Karma!!!
2007-08-29 10:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Moe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My little grandson would get confused when he was 3--many sets of gp's. Now I am the only one that steps in and helps out--a real blood grandma. He loves me and gives me hugs and sits on my lap and plays sol on the computer. My granddaughter is 17 now and a real pain--she has very little to do with me but her dad is of the same vein so no problem by me--one day she may get curious. I may be a gonner.
2007-08-29 00:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by lilabner 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say me and hubby are the only Grandparents in our babies lives...I wish they had more than us to love them, but we try to make up for the missing Grands...As they get older..they are 4 and 2. im sure they will ask...
2007-08-29 06:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Wanda S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋