It was a somewhat reunion, hadn't seen these guys in many years. While we were all hanging out my "friend" said to me "Man, I can't wait til you go to bed so I can eat your wife's pussy"
It has sent me into a state of insecurity. I am very successfull with 3 kids and a great marriage!! What the hell can I do? How would you react to someone saying that to your spouse?
2007-08-28 23:37:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dhamp, Yes I felt threatened.... He is a man whore, very good looking, been through 3 marriages in less than 10 years. I did feel threatened and that feeling is still with me, now directed towards other areas......... guys at her gym, and others
2007-08-29 00:22:55 · update #1
Were you threatened by his personality or looks or a deep down feeling he may snatch your wife knowing his past reputation. rule out whatever you have in mind and note the feeling of your wife if she resents then take him out and give him a blow with a message don't bother to see you or your family. If she was moved then you are required to act tactfully asking the person to leave as your spouse and children has resented the comment.
2007-08-29 00:18:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you feel insecure about a statement that was made by a fool? The man has had 3 marriages in less than 10 years, and at least as many cheap affairs. Does that sound like a guy who knows how to satisfy a woman? He can't buy a decent woman and he knows it. He's an unhappy man, trying to make himself look good in other people's eyes, while you're a successful man with a loving wife and children. He doesn't compare to you.
I would have told this man that I did not appreciate his inappropriate comment. Once said, I would have walked way and enjoyed the rest of the evening with my wife. Never would I feel insecure about a statement that was made by him. He would not be welcome in my home and I would not encourage any further interaction with him in social settings. Even if he apologized, he and I could not maintain a friendship.
If your wife didn't hear him say this, I would not mention the incident to her. She doesn't need to be pulled into this kind of crap. If she did hear it, you need to apologize to her for his ignorance--assuring her that you do not approve of such outragious behavior. You're a grown man. Deal with the matter like a man and forget about this fool. He's more miserable than you can imagine. Feel sorry for him and move on. Best wishes.
2007-08-29 02:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand why you would be upset. This is not a friend. He is just as you say...."man whore".....I know that this is easier said then done...but the best advise I can give is to ignore his insensitive crude comment. He is highly unlikely to apologize...Given his marriage track record it is no wonder he can't stay married for long. There is no reason to be insecure when it comes to your wife. Most men have more respect for another man's wife and would never dream of saying such things......besides your wife didn't ask for this so called disgusting friend to make such a remark and it isn't her fault....therefor there is no reason to not trust her. If I were you I would never allow this person to come near you ever again. He is worst then pond scum!
2007-08-29 00:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right...totally inappropriate. How rude! Tell him you didn't appreciate him talking about your wife in that way. If he doesn't like it...oh well.
Don't feel insecure. Good for you that you have a great life! You just keep living your life and be happy with your family. This guy is evidently jealous.
Tell him these comments are not going to be tolerated...period.
2007-08-28 23:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why this has made you insecure? You have a great marriage and this comment does not affect that.
Ditch the friend! This is not a friend, why are you associating with this person? Get some new friends who show you and your wife respect.
2007-08-28 23:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Annie O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is the stress which is caused from not telling off some @sshole who desperately needs it.
As for your wife, she is growing and changing. It happens. You can choose to get on board or fight it and lose her.
Talk to her and let her know what you are thinking. Insecurity is a problem and left unspoken ( there is that thing again) only gets worse.
Lay it out there. Try not to be needy.
2007-08-29 00:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. This is no friend. Have you talked to your wife about it? She may feel threatened so you need to talk about it. As far as a reaction when he talked about it, you'd need to tell him immediately that you thought it was inappropriate. He may have been joking, but if he was, he really has a sick sense of humor. Perhaps he has not matured over the years.
2007-08-28 23:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now now Mike...Your old "friend" really needed a punch in the kisser for that one, but since he did not get it then I suggest you take the high road and Laugh your *** off while you are the one taking care of your wife...
You obviously have a sexy wife and this guy wanted to stick it in your craw so enjoy being envied.
2007-08-29 00:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by honeykoen1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good marriage why so insecure? One thing I do know don't invite that "old" fool back to your house again he does'ent have any manners. Just keep on loving your wife and family like you always have, to me its sounds like he was probably jealous of what you had anyway. Thats why he would make such a silly comment. Good luck.
2007-08-28 23:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shake it off, he is no friend, and do not mention it to the wife. Be proud your wife is hot, and as long as she is not seeking that kind of attention, has been attentive to you, then it is coming from within yourself. You have been together nine years, and everything else seems great. Do not create a problem where none exists.
2007-08-29 00:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Travis McGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋