how do i tell my bf im pregnant?

Question

my bf is a great guy and always supportive.i was told i cant have kids and we are happy with that i just found out im pregnant i dont know how to tell him im scared hell be mad im probarley being stupid

Answer 1

Sweetlily, this is a stressful situation, so you are not being stupid. The hardest part of this is coming to the place where you are ready to talk to him. Once you have faced this that well, you will find the right words to talk to him. This is surprising, but not all that rare. In my opinion, it means you were meant to have this baby, and the baby has an important future. He or she had to be born to you. And your boyfriend.

If your boyfriend has always been supportive, that is a very good thing for you both. It will get you to the point you need to be to become parents. What ever his reaction is, give him time to adjust to the news. Even if it doesn't feel supportive at first, he'll get back to that place. Does he know that you had a reason to believe you are pregnant? That would give him time to adjust to this, too. You be supportive in this conversation, too, okay? All will be well.

Answer 2

Whatever you do, make sure you sit down with him and tell him face to face - don't do it over the phone or by text, because it's a big deal and you'll need to talk it through together. Make sure you've got some time together with nothing planned, maybe make dinner or something.

I found out recently that I'm pregnant, and although I'm married, my husband and I had no plans to have children, and he's always said he doesn't ever want children. It was also very likely that I couldn't conceive due to medical problems, so it was the last thing we were expecting! I was so scared of telling him cause I didn't know what his reaction would be, but I shouldn't have worried - he was massively supportive from the moment I told him, and now he's got used to the idea he's over the moon, and even more excited than I am! I feel silly for doubting he'd be supportive, but there are so many worries going through your mind when you find out that you're pregnant unexpectedly, it's perfectly natural to worry.

I'm sure your boyfriend loves you and will support you whatever happens, and at the end of the day he can't be mad at you - it takes two of you to make a baby after all! He'll probably surprise you by being more pleased than you might think. It's a big commitment but also a wonderful thing. Good luck, I'm sure everything will be fine!

Answer 3

If he's a supportive guy, more than likely he won't be mad or upset. He would be happy! This is an exciting time in both of your lives..and besides, this baby is a miracle. I'm sure he'll be thrilled to have a child with the woman he loves. Try this..either prepare a nice dinner at home or take him to a nice restaurant where both of you can relax and talk. Explain to him something miraculous has happened that you're absolutely thrilled about and you're sure he'll feel the same. Another icebreaker to try..if u usually drink or order wine with dinner..let me offer but tell him you won't be drinking any for medical reasons.

Answer 4

Tell him you have had some unexpected news - "do you remember I was told I can't have kids? Now the doc says I can" and tell him this is definitely correct. And when he asks how can they be sure - because it is going to happen in April or whenever your baby is due. If he is the great guy you say, he will be there for you and supportive, just the same as he would if something bad like a traffic accident happened to you. I really hope everything works out well for the three of you.

Answer 5

Take some time to yourself and get your emotions together about how you feel about this pregnancy. Once you are calm and collected (take a week or two if you need it) then think how you want to tell him.

If you tell him in a negative tone, with a sad heart, he will mimic those emotions and most likely also be upset.
Although, if you bake a cake, make a lovely dinner, wrap up the hpt with the positive on it and say to him you have a huge surprise for him, he might take it in a whole new light.

So, depending on the emotions you want to share is how you should tell him.

I thought I was pregnant, my fiancee is dying for children (we have clothing, picked out shoes online, know which parenting style we are into etc), and when I thought I was, I was TERRIFIED to tell him. Shaking, sweating, etc. When I said, hun my period is late....he was like......No, it's coming. That was the end of the conversation and I was CRUSHED.

In the morning, he told me he didn't want to get his hopes up incase I wasn't pregnant, and low and behold, I got my period......

So, in short. Tell him, and you never know the reaction you are going to get, but don't be like me and boringly blurt it out in bed at night.... :S

Answer 6

Your not being stupid, you have every right to be concerned. You could try the subtle approach, asking how he feels about kids, and whether he would like any, etc and then slowly ease him into the idea of the coming baby. Or you could try the straightforward "I'm pregnant." Either works. My cousin had to tell her boyfriend and she made dinner and set a nice setting and broke the news that way. If he sees your happy about the baby, and he loves you and cares about you, he'll be happy too.

Good luck and congratulations

Answer 7

WOW, that is something massive on your chest for you! nicely first of all i actually wouldnt enable bypass of the toddler, why are yu going to supply up a beating coronary heart on your reason (i dont advise this in a foul way) im 15and pregnant as nicely yet my bf is 17. soo if i've got been you. .only understand that interior the top your gonna sense truly truly injury on my own depressed and indignant. yet now and returned you are able to desire to alter your life to make it extra advantageous. a touch one is a blessing from above. so tell your bf first. which you 2 could desire to communicate. tell him your basically 15 and your pregnant yet you wont say that he's the daddy so he wont qet into hassle using fact its no longer his fault. &then that comparable day tell your mom and dad to they are going to be mad yet they have the suited suited to kno sweetie, youll sense truly on my own and depressed yet issues start to alter around after awhile. in case you pick the different help only ask.! sturdy success (: ? Ur no longer on my own *

Answer 8

Sit him down look in his eyes and tell him you love him first then he will ask what is wrong probably and you tell him the doctos lied and that he is gonna be a daddy he might be excited he also may need some time to think about everything just don't expect him to say something right away unless he truly is excited too.

Answer 9

whew, I had the same problem with my partner, I have a 4 year old from a previous relation ship, and we'd only been together 12 months. We'd discussed it to the point of, "Ok your meds (his) makes your sperm weak, so if it happens, it happens" but still when it did, it was a big shock!! I didn't say anything until the next day, I left the test in my handbag for him to 'find' and he was thrilled....oh and it was Valentine's Day too!! He asked me why he'd bothered with a present!! LOL

Good luck!! xxxx

Answer 10

i was in the same situation too, except my bf didn't want kids for at least 10 years!!!! To be honest just come out with it, tell him you need to talk to him about something and sit him down he'll more than likely guess, my bf did!!!! If he's the great guy you say he is then he'll be fine!!
Good luck and congrats