What would you do if you found out you were pregnant, your kids, or your girlfriend?

Question

Answer in this order:

Question 1: What would you do if your 14 year old daughter (whether your the mom or dad doesnt matter, but both answers would be nice, remember the dad is the one who lives with the daughter) was pregnant with an almost 18 year old.

Question 2: What would you do if you, at 14, was pregnant with an almost 18 year old?

Question 3: What would you do if you, almost 18, found out you and your 14 year old girlfriend was pregnant?

The 14 year old girl has been with this 17 year old since he was 16, for about a year.
His birthday is the last day of the year, December 31st.

Answer all 3 questions, dont say "thats rape" or anything like that.

You'll just get a low rating...and wont get the best answer.

I posted this question so I could hear your answers, not so that I could hear "THATS RAPE" or "your stupid" or something you think is funny, cause it isn't.

I'm obviously trying to get real answers here.

Answer 1

question 1. If my child fell pregnant I would support her without question. I would probably be pretty angry the 17 year old but it would depend on the relationship between my daughter and the 17 year old... i.e. how long they had been together, whether I saw him as a good person who I knew would support my daughter etc. But I would not take this out on my daughter. I may be dissapointed at first but I would understand that my daughter does not need lectures at the moment and is probably already regretting her mistake.

2. If I was pregnant, I would talk to my parents and my partner as soon as possible. I would want to get it out in the open so that I could stress less about breaking the news. I would keep my baby because I have always felt supported.

3. This is one I really can't speak for as it is really hard for a 23 year old female married to a 24 year old guy to put herself in the shoes of a 17 year old guy with a pregnant 14 year old girlfriend. I can speak for what my husband would have done as I know he is a decent person and would have stuck by me no matter what. Not that we had that age difference... we have been together since I was 16 and he was 17 though and right from the word go he always said he would stand by me if a fell pregnant.

I hope this helps and that everything works out for you. :)

Answer 2

1. As a mother of teenagers, I would be very disappointed and upset if my 14 yr old daughter was pregnant. I would be very upset w/her but it eventually that emotion will settle down. I can't be upset forever & look forward to a situtation that'll solve the problem. I would talk to her look at it every angle and help her on decisions whatever she decides regarding her pregnancy & future.

2. If I was 14 and pregnant w/a 18 year old boyfriend, I would be scared. As for the 18 yr old boyfriend he can leave anytime he wants he's an adult already and should of known the consiquences/risks of being a father. Look at the situation in all the wrong way that things can go wrong. You're alone. The only person who you can go to is your parent(s) they will be the only person that will be by your side. This means don't depend on your boyfriends decision.

3. If I was 18 & found out that my 14 yr old girlfriend was pregnant. That would be on my mind thinking about it, I'ld tell my friends get some input/ideas. But being 18 year old I'm an adult. I would ask myself many questions...such as why why why I should of been more careful...do I really want to be with this one person and be a daddy? if I leave her and she has this baby she'll get child support till that baby is 18. That means money out of my paycheck, really now I can't enjoy life no money. Even if I stay with her what will that do? Where's my future?

Answer 3

Q1 - I would let my daughter know that im not happy bot it n slightly dissapointed....BT all u can do is be there 4 her n support her as shes still young n will probly be scared BE THERE 4 HER N also id try 2 get details of some help groups / help lines 4 her so she has sum1 2 talk 2 in her situation
U obviously didnt think twice if ur daughter was staying with her bf

Q2 - Well cant do nothing about it...I miscarried AT 20 YEARS OLD i was devastated at the time but lookin bck i was not ready at all was far 2 young im pregnant now at 23 n feel ready now...She has been with him 4 a year in a relationship,stayin 2getha bt find it difficult what he sees in a 14yr old as spost 2 a 18yr old.Theyve probly been through the options n decided 2 keep the baby

Q3 - Knew what he was doin when he had sex obviously think it would make him realise that hes made his bed (wheter he likes it or not)

There is plenty of time 2 have kids they havnt experienced life yet ur daughters not even legal 2 buy fags go oot n have a drink
its scary

Answer 4

1.) I would help her out and be there for her because she is going to need all the support she could get. Yes she would be very yong and my baby would be having a baby but I would support her 100%. My best friend is only 17 and has 2 babies already and her girls are only 8 months apart, and her mom helps her out as much as she can, **** happens, but there is alt less stress on her and hr and her mom are more closer now more than ever.

2.) I would have the baby because I do nt believe in abortion. I was 16 when I was pregnant and I was going to keep my baby but I ended up having a miscarriage, but at the age of 14 it would depend on the support I would get from my parents, if they will help me out and are willing to i would keep the baby but if i thought that the baby would have a better home with another family then I would consider adoption.

3.) If I was the guy I would help her out as much as possible but guys have the tendancy to just walk outta the babies life. And want nthing to do with the baby or mother.

Answer 5

Answer for Q1: I would not be a happy parent, but if I was allowing my 14-year-old daughter to be seeing an 18-year-old, I would have been making sure that if she was sexually active she was ON BIRTH CONTROL. I wouldn't be in that situation, though, because that boy would be TOO OLD for my daughter!

Answer for Q2: If I was 14 and pregnant, I would be very upset because I would more than likely only be a freshman in high school and know that I haven't even been to a prom or homecoming or graduated from HIGH SCHOOL and I would think that I am going to be a parent and I should have been more responsible. Then I would consider my future and the baby's future and realize that I am WAY too young to give that child a decent life.

Answer to Q3: What the HELL are you doing with a 14-year-old? You are MUCH too old for her. She has barely been old enough to get pregnant and you have gotten her that way. YOU SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER! More than likely, she was vulnerable and you were horny. Don't tell me you are in love with her. Don't tell me you will marry her and raise that baby and be there and be the best father in the world to your little mistake with your way-too-young girlfriend.

Any more questions?

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Answer 6

1. I would be upset, rightfully so, though you may not see it know. I would talk about her options and support her in what ever decision she wanted to make.
I got pregnant at 17, so I would be a bit more understanding than my parents where. Let her know that I would watch her child while she was in school and/or work, but other than that she would have to get a different babysitter.

2. Well I got pregnant at 17, and that was hard, I couldn't imignie being 14, I think I would consider adoption.'

3. I would be really worried that her parents would press charges.

Answer 7

1. As the parent of the mother to be at 14 I would help both the kids look at their options and give assistance on what they could do.
2. As the 14 yr old I would find out what options were available to me and consider the best one.
3. As the 17 yr old I would apologise to the parent, tell them both that I would hang in there and do whatever was needed to help and then see how I could help by considering what the 14 yr old wanted to do.

Answer 8

Early, early, I'd insist on a plan b. Otherwise, she'd have the baby and I'd raise it as my own. This wouldn't have happened, though, as my daughter was well versed in birth control.

Early, early, I'd go to plan b. I don't believe in abortion, so, I'd deliver the child and send it out to be adopted. This might have happened to me because I knew nothing about birth control until I was married.

Early, early, plan b. This is hard, because I'm not a boy, and I don't think like an adolescent boy. My son agreed with plan b. Then he said it would be the mother's choice as to whether to terminate or carry the child, but that if she did carry the child, he would advise her against keeping it. If she persisted, he would have to sue for custody because she's not a fit mother at 14. Again, this would not have happened to my child because he knows what to do to prevent pregnancy.

Answer 9

1.- As a woman I would picture myself as the mother of the 14 yr old and my reaction would first be of panic but I wouldn't show it to my daughter. I would probably lower my head when she tells me and sit down with her. I would take her somewhere relaxing, like a lake or the beach...and once we get there and sit down, I would start asking questions as far as if she wants the baby, if she would consider abortion (if she says she wants an abortion i would explain to her WHY SHE SHOULD NOT GET ONE DONE and would show her pictures and all the stuff there is on the internet, I would make her research on it). I would also ask her about her plans as far as how to improve her life to be able to support the child. I would also ask questions about the 18 yr old boyfriend and if he knows, if she counts on him and if he'll do anything to support the baby. I would tell her about my personal experiences and how much I support her and that she can count on me financially, physically and for everything while being pregnant and after the baby comes. I would support her to go to school and finish a career. I'm actually going to school and I'm pregnant. I know I will be able to finish it if I put effort on it. I will start taking online classes when my baby is born. :)

2.- If I would have gotten pregnant at 14, I would have freaked out and wouldn't be able to tell my parents, so I would have talked with my boyfriend about this and would have thought about solutions with him for a while until we figured out what to do together...but at the end I would have told my parents anyway...and would have probably done what they would have told me to do...whether it was to have the baby or to have an abortion. I would have followed their guidance...um, my mom would have told me not to have an abortion and my dad would have told me to have one...just like it happened not too long ago when they found out I became pregnant (the thing is I'm 21 yrs old) and I made a decision to have the baby. Now I have 100% their support and I know I will be fine with my family supporting me as well as my boyfriend.

3.- If I was a man and was almost 18...with a 14 yr old girlfriend that just became pregnant...I would FREAK OUT and would probably start acting dumb, like hanging out with my friends all the time trying to avoid my girlfriend for a week or so, until I got settled with my thoughts...then I would hang out with her by ourselves and would figure out a way to raise this baby together...I would tell her all my fears and would start trying to find a job ASAP.

Answer 10

i was 15 and pregnant to a 17 year old and we have a beautiful 3 year old and an 18 month old and one on the way but if my kids did it i would be shocked but you know these things happen i would support my child and help them raise the baby because i had no help and wouldnt want my child to go through that good luck to you