I was with an ex girlfriend who was giving me unwanted sexual advances and i made it clear that I didnt want it but the woman continued to coherse and pressure me to the point that I somehow owed her because she "was there for me" and because if I was a real friend i would give her what I wanted. Even after I began to flip out she kept trying to touch me telling me it wasnt fair that she had given me so much and now I wouldnt give to her when she wanted it. I'm not sure how to understand what happened. I have felt guilty about sex before but this time its different I feel violated ashamed and guilty that this happened and I didnt want it to. I eventualy stopped saying no and let her do what she wanted to me. I pushed her off and she stopped but then she began to masturbate over me and I lay there silently , i dont even remember much. I understand i wasnt beaten or physicaly forced but I feel like i got forced mentally.Is this rape?
2007-08-28 19:49:21 · 10 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
yes, hon, not matter what no is no, and if you dont want it you should not be forced any how to do something that you dont want to do.
and she is very wrong for what she did, and she is the one who should be ashamed and guilty, not you, you did nothing , and i mean nothing at all to be ashamed about,
i wish you only the best babe and hope it all works out, making love should be a very sweet thing and what happen to you was no i am so very sorry,,,
i wish you the best :)))))))))))))))
2007-08-29 13:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You did not want it and she put you in a position where you felt you had no choice. From what you say here,She has definately taken advantage of you. I would recomend seeking the advice of a counsellor that is trained in dealing with these kind of situations, and can advise you on what course of action you can now take, if you want to.
You have every right to feel how you do and I can see how you would be confused by what happened, Men as the victim in sexual crimes is not often discussed or publicised therefore it can be harder to feel you have the right to stand u and be heard. I wish you all the best wether you chose to seek justice or to move on.
2007-08-28 20:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This girl sound kinda sadistic,I have to agree,you should have told her that if you were in different places you couldn't get away with that crap cuz your a guy,I would not speak to her anymore and end the whole relationship between the two of you,you were definitely violated,and you should not feel guilty at all,your the victim,Sorry to hear about this happening to you,:)
2007-08-28 19:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This could be rape because you kept telling her "no" and she kept insisting. Did she make you have sex with her?
A word to the wise: Never, ever see this woman again. She is not the one for you under any circumstances.
Also, what happened is not your fault, so don't feel guilty or ashamed about it. It is NOT your fault. Clearly, the woman has some serious problems. Avoid her.
2007-08-28 19:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Richard B 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Technically, it is not rape because you did not have sex. However, it is sexual misconduct/sexual abuse. You were violated and she should feel ashamed.
2007-08-28 19:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by red 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its not really considered rape b/c she didnt use physical force and at every point you had a choice to stop or to never even start. when you are in situations like these it helps to remember your morals and principles. feeling sorry or guilty is not always the best thing to do. you might feel bad at the moment, but in the long run sticking to your moral and principles will feel more rewarding.
however, if you kept saying no and she did it........shes got problems.....and it might be considered rape....but it wasnt like you couldnt get up and walk away.....so maybe not.....
P.S. sometimes mental force is worse than physical force so don't feel bad, everyone has been there at some point. Hope you feel better and remember to stick to you principles and morals at all times because in the end of the day they might be the only things you have left
2007-08-28 19:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by someone 2 · 2⤊ 8⤋
YEAH iT WAS. SEND THiS ***** T0 JAiL MAN.
2007-09-01 18:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much is. No means no.
2007-08-28 19:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 3 · 12⤊ 0⤋
no matter what if you say "no" it is rape!
2007-08-28 22:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by jbird_19841 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on don't say it is RAPE!!!!!, u were also enjoying that is why when she was seducing u, u cudn't stop her,
u enjoyed alsoooooooooooooooooooo, first u were not releaxed and when she started touching u, u feel gud and u liked her touch,
2007-08-28 20:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by broken heart 1 · 1⤊ 16⤋