I am going through a seperation with my spouse of 13yrs. He left me and my children recently. I am very depressed and have tried to save my marriage but please answer this do you believe that it is better to walk away and let things go rather than keeping trying and chasing a man who is pushing me away. I wanted to know if you let someone you love go even though you love them dearly than you can truly see if things were mean't to be
2007-08-28 19:37:16 · 5 answers · asked by danaispeace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have felt the same feelings as you and I know your hurt is very big.
I had these questions when my husband had his affair. Should I try to get him back? How can I make him love me again? I tried those things and they only made me feel like a fool.
I prayed a lot and just started living life as "me" instead of "we". Oh, it wasn't easy. I had to make myself even get out of bed. I didn't want to face anything, but little by little I get stronger. It's been 6 months and I'm getting there. Don't give up on yourself. You may need to let him go, but don't allow yourself to give up on living your life. It's easy to want to hide and withdraw from everything and that's ok for awhile until you get your bearings, but soon try to make yourself do things even if you don't really want to. Take a short walk or bike ride or go to the store and get yourself a treat for lunch...even when you don't want to do anything.
Talk to God. He listens when we pour our heart out to Him and can get us through things that we couldn't make it through on our own. I'll pray for you also.
2007-08-28 20:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. never ever beg or run after him. Do not seem needy. The less said to him the better.
Second...let him initiate any legal papers
Third...research "separations" divorce" in your state and get a feel how you will fare should he file. Set on paper what you would like to see in the division of the property.
You say "my children". If these children are biologically/legally his, you must keep them in his life. If they are yours from a former relationship I don't see why you are having trouble with this, since you have been through it before.
2007-08-29 02:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chasing after, or trying to hold on to someone
"who is pushing me away" is self destructive behavior.
(Trust me on that one, I've been there.)
If it's over you need to move on.
You don't want to hear that, but you have to.
There's no choice, he's already gone.
You must accept that, and the sooner, the better.
2007-08-29 02:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's going to hurt you more when he keeps pushing you away, you are better off walking away...I'm going through the same thing I've had to let go..it's not easy and it hurts like hell but it does get better...good luck and keep your chin up
2007-08-29 09:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best advice I can give
Like a bird... set him FREE
if it was meant to BE......
he will fly home........!@!!!!!!
it will be hard really hard to set him free... i no...
I set mine free... and he came back on the REBOUND..
It is better too of loved and lost...
than never loved at all... !!!!!!!!!!!! FAMOUS QUOTE...
quit crying over him... u have invested too much time already... if he wants to be with u.... he knows whereto find u..
You are killing ur self....he's not...
move forward.... find something else...like bowling, get ur mind off of him.....
2007-08-29 02:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋