help pls! vagina muscles..?

Question

i had been to the doctor as i have problem during penetration i get stiff down there,my doctor had given be a small dildo type thing to try 1st and work out on controlling the muscles down there,, i did that well, now he gave me thicker one, i tried once its a bit difficult for me, it doesnt pain but the muscles contract and make it difficult to enter,, what i can do to prevent the muscles to contract? any tips,,,, how can make things more easier, i use lube to make it easy.. but i have to work on the muscles,,, so pls help.. i try to be cool and relaxed.. as much as i can..

to my good luck my hubby is very understading..he helps me a lot,,,
we do try to gather but he fears hurting me any way.. i will keep trying.. hope things work out...thanks

Answer 1

Is it possible that your first experience with penatration was painful and you are scared? Even in your sub-consience?

You need a very understanding partner who you feel comfortable with.

Then agree to petting only, no penetration. You can both do whatever you feel comfortable with in the way of mutual pleasuring, but penetration is forbidden.

Gradually you will be able to relax, this may take months, but you will know when you are ready, then try again.

In the meantime, you will both learn all sorts of techniques to give each otherr pleasure, and when you finally engage in penatrative sex, it should be awesome!

You will both end up much better lovers as a result.

(BTW, this is simmilar to the procedures to help a man with erectile dysfunction)