is visiting porno sites and escort egencies secretly,but ive found out , is this normal, or should i be worried
2007-08-28 18:30:19 · 34 answers · asked by suze 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it isn't normal and it is wrong. He has a wife...there should be no need to lust after others. That is adultery.
2007-08-28 19:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have found this information to be true? Confront him, if he denies it then have the history of web sites visited ready at hand to prove your case. Porno is one thing, escort agencies is the epitome of a man looking for something more.
2007-08-28 18:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy!? Discuss this with him then leave him, if he cant find what he needs in you then he doesnt need you at all, move on you'll find someone who will respect you, if you dont have a problem then stay with him but you should be worried if he does either, I would feel insecure and feel like I wasnt good enough if my partner did that to me - each to there own, I cant belive you had to ask, if you found out that he went to an escort agency without telling you wouldnt that spell it out?
2007-08-28 18:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were to ask all the men here everyone would tell you it's normal give him a brake leave him alone.Would you think it was normal if you were to visit male porn and escort agencies. A little porn never hurt anyone but most men won't stop there they get tire of seeing the same thing just like they get tired of us wives.The more they watch the more they want to see the nasty stuff. In my opinion I think every husband that gets caught watching porn should be labeled a pervert.
2007-08-28 18:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not, especially, if it bothers you. Men might think it's normal to look at porn and escort agencies but women think it's not because men might go out and end up having sex with someone else, so it is not normal.
I would confront your spouse saying that you found out and of course, your spouse might deny it and get ready for an argument. I also think that both of you see a marriage counselor together because our responses here are probably not enough to help cure or save your marriage. Sorry.
2007-08-28 18:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
IMO, porn is okay but I would be extremely concerned if he were visiting the sites too often. I draw a line at once or twice a week w/ my guy since we do get intimate almost daily. If he is not intimate with you but visits sites daily, that is an alarming red flag.
Escort service is DEFINITELY a cause for concern. To let him know that you know he visits the site, I would open the "history" sidebar and and website in plain sight and leave it on for him to see.
2007-08-28 19:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by cherryblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not something I would do, all right looked at the odd risque magazine in the hairdressers, but never had the inclination to take it any further, especially going to escort agencies.
You need to confront him and work it through with him. Get him to take professional advice.
Hopefully its just male inquisitiveness and you will guide him back to the man you married.
The very best of luck to you.
2007-08-28 20:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by firebobby 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Porno sites not so much as escort agencies!! Confront him ASAP.
2007-08-28 18:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by bunnyfriend 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it were my husband I would be very worried. Men seem to think it's OK to look at porn but I don't think many women would agree. As for the escort agency totally unacceptable in my book. Men only use them for one thing!
2007-08-28 22:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Dory 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should be very worried- its not normal for a happily married to be doing these things - there is something wrong there. He is being 'unfaithful' to you in a way because he is keeping this from you- you need to confront the issue now- don't let it go on. It is painful i know but thinking it could be normal is dangerous thinking on your behalf.
2007-08-28 18:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is normal at all, It has or will eventually affect your relationship too. It is an addiction and can become very dangerous and destructive. I would gently let him know that I know. Then I would Strongly suggest counseling. Me, personally, I would stand by him if he got help. Otherwise, I dont think I could deal with it. It is nothing less than adultery.
2007-08-28 18:40:36 · answer #11 · answered by MeMeCindy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋