2007-08-28 17:47:08 · 7 answers · asked by Cali 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most of the time, I would have to say 'yes' to this question, but it's way too general to be sure about. Many people with BPD have fears of being rejected, and attempt to push people away with behaviors like the one you are speaking of... It hurts less to push someone else away instead of have them reject you, right? You just have to be consistent and show strong boundaries. Don't expect someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder to stop doing such things even when you do follow the above steps though. The only person who has the power to do that is them.... By being there for them the best you can though, you show your support and your love for them. Sometimes that is all you can do. I know how hard it is to cope with this, and the most important thing is for you to stay strong yourself. It can be so draining sometimes, so remember that it is okay and normal for you to need to distance yourself at times.
There are several extremely helpful books about BPD, as well as being in the life of someone who lives with the disorder. Good luck to you... and don't forget about yourself!
2007-08-28 18:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by Essence of Naivete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is to define what a borderline personality disorder generally has in common. Foremost, they generally must be the center of attention , weather it is positive or negative reinforcement. One with this disorder can rarely develop close personal relationships. They tend to be distant and will refute another's attempts to intimate with them.
They may state that they have an INTENSE desire to love you or another human being. The fact is, generally, that they really don't know their true intentions for emotions that may or may not be displayed. A person with a true borderline disorder could attempt to be genuine in their affections, although sometimes misguided.
The real true problem with someone who has been diagnosed with a "borderline personality disorder", is that the person that may label them with this affliction may indeed be fulfilling a self condemning phropesy. This means that when is told of a diagnosis, e.g., manic-depressive, that they may begin to behave in a certain way that one could construe as being bi-polar. Diagnosis entails a rather lengthy process and should NOT be taken likely. I am rather reticent to discuss with a client their "diagnosis" for this obvious reason.
If someone may have stated that "deep down that they hate you", and you believe the opposite is true that they love you, then go with your gut instinct.
2007-08-29 01:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by TIMMY D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The surge of borderline personality disorder inquiries today... perhaps some fast approaching exam? No rudeness intended, but if such endure the case, much more appropriate would be to study related curriculum to arrive at suitable answer as per your educational institution.
2007-08-29 01:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Blah Blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ambiguous because most people with borderline were given a blurred distinction about love, which is why they have it in the first place. I would believe that their true self loves but with the kind of love they were shown.
2007-08-29 00:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by Numen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's true of everyone really.
I have said I hate you and not meant it but I was serious at the time and the person had thought I was too. Try talking to them about it in a couple days and see how they feel.
2007-08-29 00:50:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dandelion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BPD (cutters) don't even love themselves. They don't hate you, they just feel you're too close and it's more than they can deal with. Get them some help then back out of the picture for a while.
2007-08-29 01:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes, only if they are your parents or your kids.
2007-08-29 00:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by MayaMC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋