My aunt is pregnet and no one knows but me, she dosent want anyone to find out! What should I do???

Question

She's 19 and just had a baby thats 8 months old, when she was pregnet she wanted an abortion but my grandmother did not aprove of it. Since he's been born he's learned to love our grandmother as his mother. My grandmas taken care of him since he left the hospital and my aunt has done nothing but act like nothing ever happen. She just comes home as she pleases and is all druged up threatning my grandma that she wont sign papers so she can be the legal gaurdian. Now she's pregnet with some other guys baby and I just really want to tell my grandma. She said she was going to get an abortion and then she said she was going to take off and live with this new guy and the baby she is expecting. Im so confused???? it's just so much drama!! My grandma being 60 and having to be a house wife and a mother all over again is so difficult. Im only 18 and Im trying to do as much to help out but Im in college and I work and bearly have time!!! should I let my grandma know whats going on ???

We are actually not talking right now so Im not even sure if she's already had the abortion??? Besides she might just have a misscarage because she does meth and smokes ciggaretts and I found bottles in her room!!! It wouldnt be the first time.....she had one when she 18. It's been pregnancy after another!!!

Answer 1

Wow hun, that's rough. I really wanna compliment you though - even though you're only 18, you sound really responsible and caring! Unfortunately, your aunt sounds like the opposite. While usually, I am not a fan of spreading secrets or talking behind someone's back, I think that in your case, you should tell your grandmother. From what you describe, your aunt sounds incredibly irresponsible, first having one baby and practically abandoning it, then getting pregnant again while doing drugs. If she does have this second baby, there's a pretty good chance that your grandma will be the one taking care of him or her as well! So in that respect, your grandmother should know, just so she can brace herself for the future, and possibly make some kind of arrangements or decisions about the children and custody of them. Even if your grandmother gets upset and confronts your aunt, you shouldn't feel bad or guilty - your aunt's behavior is bringing this on her! And if she doesn't talk to you or trust you for telling your grandma, honestly, even though she is family she does not sound like a good person to be around anyway. And finally, you really sound like you are really concerned about this whole situation and you need someone to talk to about all this (not just us on Yahoo! Answers). Your grandma might be the perfect person to talk to since she probably shares your fears and concerns.

Answer 2

hmmm... thats a tough situation. i would tell the grandma. at least she is willing to give the baby the love and support it needs. if your aunt doesn't want kids or to be pregnant than she needs to get on birth control or stop having sex. neither you nor your grandma deserve to be put under this kind of pressure and stress because of her irresponsibility. you can't stop her from getting an abortion or running away with this guy, but don't hold all that inside, its not good for you. i wish you the best of luck in this tough situation.

Answer 3

Normally, I would tell you to back off & let your aunt tell people when she's ready. But then I read your situation and wow, your aunt needs help! Please tell your grandma. She may end up raising the next one, as well, and she really ought to be prepared.

I am so sorry for your aunt's children. At least your grandma and you are there to be positive influences.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

Mind your own business. If your Aunt chooses to continue the pregnancy, she will be found out soon enough. Your grandmother raised her and set herself up for the current situation. Let her handle it and get on with your own life.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry honey that you have to be in the middle of this! If you can, have your aunt call 800-395-HELP. They are best trained to help her make an informed decision.

Answer 6

YES!