If Sex Has The Potential To Create Life...Can It Ever Be Just Casual?

Question

BLIXA22: But sooner or later I think it dawns on most people, as they gain experience & develop sophistication emotionally and mentally, that it's not ever truly casual. Having casual sex is sort of like eating a whole pint of Ben & Jerry's while watching TV... just because you enjoyed it doesn't mean you really tasted it.

-- Beautifully put.

CELESTEJ123: Sex is powerful and awesome act. People who think sex is casual obviously experience it on a shallow level and are probably not very good at it. I personally only have sex with passionate people.

-- I agree. Two days ago I asked my ex-ex-ex-ex-boyfriend what it was like having sex with me. To this he replied. “It wasn’t sex, we made love...” Nothing shallow about that! :-)

Answer 1

I would have to say, at least in my case, that an unequivocal NO would have to be the answer... and not because the act of Sex may create life....

I find Sex to be inspiring. It is an art form of sensuality that is shared between two people that can be expressed through the sharing of the most intimate form of physicality. Two people become one for an instant... their energy is indistinguishable from each other... the passion is intense... the senses overload... life's temporarily suspended at the point of the "little Death" of orgasm...

How can something like that be casual ... ;-)

Answer 2

To an individual, who rationalizes that it's just casual, just for pleasure, and uses contraception, sure, yes. Tons of people have sex casually... with contraception, why shouldn't they.

In a philosophical sense, though, no. I really don't think it ever is. I think each time we have sex we know deep down - our flesh knows - it's not like a handshake; it's quite different from everything else we ever do. I think that the sensation of having sex, in itself, contains the knowledge that it goes beyond our personal decision making and physical autonomy. I think that's actually why it's so damn exciting.

Our culture understands the connection of sex and death quite well, and often glosses over or even conceals its connection to life -- an individualistic, masculinizing, shaming culture makes it easier for us to pretend it's casual. But sooner or later I think it dawns on most people, as they gain experience & develop sophistication emotionally and mentally, that it's not ever truly casual. Having casual sex is sort of like eating a whole pint of Ben & Jerry's while watching TV... just because you enjoyed it doesn't mean you really tasted it.

Answer 3

I've often pondered the same question- my conclusion is unequivocally no, at least not for me. Sex is powerful and awesome act. Sex is fun, but it's never a light matter. It has the power to create or end life- what could possibly be more serious? Even with birth control we are doing it for the same subconscious reason. People who think sex is casual obviously experience it on a shallow level and are probably not very good at it. I personally only have sex with passionate people.

Answer 4

You're right. Sex without birthcontrol measures may have the potential to create life/ The chances, not predictable.

But by adopting birthcontrol measure we stop / pause the potential to create life. Then all sex becomes casual. So, it can be & it is casual. Where is the potential to create life has gone? Hibernation?

Let's have fun, if two adults together decide to have fun.

These days, sex has become some sets of a game! nothing more. That's the right attitude too!

Answer 5

Sex does not create life. Life is exists along a continuum. The ovum and sperm are already alive and merely recombine in a different way. Life cannot emerge out of dead matter or material.

Casualness is not the problem, but rather irresponsibility. More people produce children into poverty, disease and death than I care to count. Sex can and is as casual as a handshake. Not taking responsibility is what is socially and individually damaging.

I'm fine with casual sex, just not casual parenthood.

Answer 6

No. Why? Because humans just aren't wired up this way. Humans are creatures of attatchment. It's impossible for us to have an intensely pleasurable experience with anything and NOT get attatched to it. This includes sex, drugs and everything we do in day to day life that we derive pleasure from. There are many species in the animal kingdon that can have sex without attatchment but I don't believe homo-sapiens(humans) are included in this list. Bad for us I guess.
So when we have sex with someone we develop feelings of attatchment and affection for them, reguardless of the circumstances. When you see casual sex in the movies it's just nice and clean without any complications. When you see it in real life it's a bit of a different strory: Not calling after sex, ending relationships as soon as sex happens, drinking lots or doing drugs after sex, having to switch partners often, not having sex with any one person too much. All behaviors to avoid the emotional aftermath of sex.
It's a wonderful dream though. Why can't we just take human affection in the form of a pill(casual sex) whenever we want without all the messy complications that accompany normal human relationships? Wonderful dream but, sadly, just not true.
With all the taboos concerning sex in our society it's easy to think the only thing standing between us and fun is a bunch of judging old bitty's, pregnancy and disease. The emotional component is almost never addressed. And I think that may be another societal thing. We're supposed to be in control of our emotions. If we decide we're not going to fall in love we can just switch off that feeling at will.

Answer 7

What is so serious about having a baby?

(Again with the boo birds.)

We are talking sex and I do not expect people to agree with me because I stand so far out on the ledge of what is reasonable that it is alarming to most.

Casual sex exists because people came up with means to prevent pregnancies, but; the truth is that people have always had the means to prevent pregnancies, it is called infanticide. You just take the unwanted baby out to the woods and leave him/her to the discretion of the wolves. And it wasn't that the child was ill or still born. Some people just did not want to have daughters and that was enough to kill them or give them away.

This is one of those great timing questions.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO CONSIDER ETHICALLY ABOUT LIFE AND DEATH IS THE TIMING OF THINGS.

If you assume that you can have a child whenever then why not have an abortion, why not put your child up for adoption, why not have sex with whoever and whenever you want and who cares who the parent is? You can always just fix things to the way you want them to be.

Let's not confuse child birth with parenting.

I am not going to tell adoptive parents or single parents that they are in anyway less parental than a couple that had sex and raised their own offspring. Parenting has nothing to do with having sex. I repeat nothing.

When you use parenting and sex in the same sentence you end up with incest.

(Boo!!! Boo!!! Hiss!!! Hiss!!!)

I know the logic of that one will mystify many but you don't have to be good at having sex to be a fantastic parent. You just have to be a fantastic parent.

Back to being casual, why should I care if I have one child or fifty? Maybe, I want fifty children. Maybe I think I am a fantastic parent. Maybe, I am. Why should it matter who I impregnate if I live up to my end of the relaionship?

I know this sound cavalier but the concept of casual sex is cavalier in its disregard for planned pregnancy. It is what I would call a "It's all good" way of looking at things.

Now here is where I throw a monkey wrench in the whole thing

What if the sex is only casual for one person, or if the couple can't decide what to do with the preganancy? That is when you have a problem.

Let's say she wants an abortion and I want children, or vice versa. That is something that could turn the relationship less casual, until you realize legally she gets her way, and if I can't deal with that then I am in for a rude awakening. But wait, I am thinking, so, this must not be casual. Ah, but what if she lies? Is that casual? Could be.

There is no guarantee that you will ever see this person again, especially if you met in a bar and never exchanged information.

So basically the woman can do what ever she wants and lie with impunity. The man would never know the difference. So it goes back to the timing question and what does the woman want to do about the situation. Is this the right time for her to be having a child or not?

The funny thing as I remember how I started this answer is that I included contraception and then immediately removed it from the picture because while the pill and condoms have done much to promote sexual promiscuity, they have not flat out changed the way people think about sex. In fact they have solidified the fact that people who want to have more sex don't want to have more children. That is why they are using contraceptives, to prevent pregnancies. how is that casual?

Think about it, you have to go to store in advance to buy your condoms and they are not cheap. If they are, then they are not good, and if they are not good why bother buying them in the first place? It always alarms me when I see condoms on clearance or in a dollar store. Who buys those things? It is not like you are making crotons out of day old bread. These are condoms which you find either in the drug store aisle next to the baby diapers or in the grocery store infront of the prescription counter. Talk about your subtle reminders of the significance of your actions. Meanwhile women have to go to their doctors to get an exam to be given their pills, or prophylactic devices, excluding the female condom which is an invaxion of privacy in the extreme, no matter how wonderful they may feel about their appearance.

The point is, how can you call it casual if you had to go out of your way to prepare for the situation.

Casual is more like the old days when you had sex and what happened happened and you dealt with it when it happened.

I guess what I am trying to say as I sum this all up is if it does not matter to you the outcome of your assignation then your sex is indeed casual, and the potential to create children has always been a given, but; the potential to end life has been a given as well. If you have no problem with the later then you should have no problem with the former as well.

Answer 8

OK, we all know that everything has an upside and a down side. If you are hungry, I would feed you. If you were broke, I would by you some gas. If you had grasshoppers in your pillow, as they say, and I could help, I would, barring disease or dirt. But with me, there's no chance of pregnancy. The ideal is to have a life partner that has the same drive and desires as you. Most of us fall a little short of the ideal. This answer is already too long, so I say yes. peace

Answer 9

Answer: No.

Not really.

Nor is sex because it can be used for procreation what pseudo-religious anti-reality anti-individualists say it is---something only theocratic families ought to do. They're insanely wrong.

Sex is something two people who think they're in love express admiration by; anything less to express as two selves, and it's an attempt to substitute physical pleasure
for earned profit That would be like cheating to win an athletic prize--so you could get the glory but not do the steps to win it fairly.

Answer 10

Sex has become Just Casual...

Modern life is full of tensions and turmoils, thanks to industrialization,Professional competition, Job demands of Targets, liberalization and freedom of movements of man all the globe. World War I and II have shown man that life is so momentary that enjoy it till it lasts particularly in Europe, America England, and all those NATO Allies....

Many forms of entertainments have also been invented to Escape from the the pains of War and the present life of Stress as well..

the best and handy form of entertainment is Sex apart from Drug and liquor. party, dance, and moderate form are racing, adventure, sports , reading, music, and whole .. But The Sex is topping the list..

Now with so much energy modern technology has made available to man. with reduced worries for safety and destruction and increased comforts , better housing, better food, better ways to enrich body power, man woman finds overflowing Sex Power at their disposal.. not knowing what to do with this Force.. tends to waste apart from Creating Life.. like a child given Heritage from Rich Parents . child will do what ever comes on his mind . either through so called well wishers , relatives ,friends guides.. child will donate to poor.. and all the charity work. Endless habit of charity makes himself pauper.


Here also Advertisements, Liberal attitudes of Society, parents and not tobe termed as Prudish.. Sex is allowed to be talked everywhere This lives little room for keeping away from experimenting with Sex at any age. Boy of 14 can be proud father with willing girl of 17..

Who will put limit on when or where to enjoy sex.. Sex is used as Release Valve. and is allowed to become Just Casual..
if it was not so.. will there ever be Marylene Monaroe or Monica Levensky or Mirthala (a TV news reader of Telemundo TV channel of LA)