I told him if he ever needed anything id help him out. But he said thanks but he needs some time off from our relationship.Correct me if i'm wrong but when a guy is going thru sad times, wouldnt he want his partner to help him out and not stay away? I feel he is using this to break up with me. What should i do?
2007-08-28 16:22:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
his mom is in good condition from a stroke. but still in the hospital.no major damage.
2007-08-28 16:23:25 · update #1
Some guys do want a partner to help out, others want to work it out on their own. Sounds like your guy is the latter.
What should you do? Believe him, trust him and give him the space he asks for! Most people are not going to lie about a parent having a stroke. This is not the time to become needy and possessive. Sometimes if you try to hold on too tight, you lose your grip. If you push him or accuse him of making excuses or lying, he may just break off with you for that reason. If you and he are meant to be, it will happen.
2007-08-28 16:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds a bit that way doesn't it re him wanting time out, I believe you need to give him this time, no questions asked OR if it's eating away at you why don't you just ask him straight up?
I personally like the following paragraph written by Dr Phil:
Know that you will get hurt if you're in a relationship. There is no perfect person without flaws. Even a well-intended guy is going to hurt his partner. He's going to hurt your feelings. He's going to say things that you don't want him to say. He's going to do things you wish he wouldn't do and not do things you wish he would do. A relationship is an imperfect union between two willing spirits who say, ''I'd rather be in a relationship and share my life, share my joys, share my fun, share my activities, share my life than do it alone." If you want to be in a relationship, know that getting hurt comes with the territory. You just have to decide that you are durable enough, that you have enough confidence in yourself that you can handle it.
2007-08-28 23:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is in "good condition" after a stroke. He wants you to stay away for comments just like that. He is concerned about his Mom and you are not concerned. You don't want to help and probably have done your best not to go to the hospital to see her. Right? She may have asked why. You should ask to go along to visit his Mom. Bring her a favorite magazine. If you don't make an effort with this, it will be over.
2007-08-28 23:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by Julie H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably isn't making excuses. I think he just wants to only have to worry about her feelings at the moment and doesn't want to neglect anyone else. He probably feels pulled in numerous directions and giving you two a break will release him from the pull towards you. Just remind him every now and then that you're still there and ready to talk if he needs it.
2007-08-28 23:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by MR. Tumnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a break to sort things out and keep his focus on what's going on. Probably your relationship is yet in a juvenile stage that he is not yet comfortable getting you involved with his personal life.
Respect his decision. Stay calm and get involved with other activities. Keep in touch with him from time to time. If he loves you, he will come back. If not, there are other men around. He is probably very vulnerable right now so it is important not to stress him out with your prying about the real situation.
2007-08-28 23:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by mcw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dotn think hes making excuses....i believe that he just needs to take care of his mom and have her as his main priority right now and not have 2 worry about balancing 2 very important people .
2007-08-28 23:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some do and some dont' it just depends on the person and you should know him well just do what you thnk is best.
2007-09-01 23:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋