im asingle mother of 6 children with one on the way,i would like to know from the men especially,can i truely find a man that might be interested in me and not think of my kids as baggage and not think of me as a woman in need? i carry my own weight.i love to work and have my own money,but theres no need to lie ,i wouldnt mind some help,which is something i cant seem to find love,joy,security and happiness,which ive been told that makes me an hard *** because im use to being the boss and for a man to step in and attempt to do it is hard for me,but i guess if the right one come along ,i can let go of the power and just be a woman in love who is actually happy for once in her life.
2007-08-28 16:21:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First question: How old are you?
Next question: How many men have created these 6+ children?
3) don't you think it's about time for you to start crossing your legs and saying "no more !"
It's about time for you to start thinking of yourself for a change and not bundling up six kids, and formula, and diaper bags just to go to the store.
I like kids, and they like me, but I'd run the three minute mile too if I knew you had six and a half kids.
"I'm use to being the boss" ?
No man wants to be bossed -- you need to give a little too.
2007-09-05 12:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by gramps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all seven kids is a lot to ask a man to take on. With you having your own and not needing anything from a man that is okay but for a man to step in he has to accept your kids and that is a lot to ask a man to do.
Stop looking for love and let it just happen it will if it is meant to be. I asked my brother about your situation because I am a woman and he told me a he would not date you not because of the amount of kids but it shows you have a lot of unprotected sex and in the time we live in he does not want to chance getting an STD that won't go away. I am not saying you have anything but my brother says that is the first thing that comes to his mind.
I have two kids from a previous relationship and they don't belong to my husband so I kind of know what you are going through but you really need to realize the more kids you have the least men will be involved with you on a long term because if he takes you he has to take your soon to be 7 kids.
Look at it if you were dating a man with 7 kids will you handle it well honestly.
2007-09-04 04:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a lawyer by profession and also was a single mom. I also thought the same ideals as you but these things dont complete me as a woman. Yes perhaps some would say that you only want a man for your physically needs.... some said that to me but i thought differently. I eventually found true love when i met my husband now....an ordinary government employee. He didnt have a degree nor a position like mine but i can say he has greater ideals and principles than i. He perceives life unmaterially. He never had insecurities with my stature. He's just a plain good husband and father to my kids. Maybe that's what completes me. His simplicity and his acceptance of life and his acceptance of my whole being.
If i found such a man..... im sure you'll find yours too.
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2016-05-18 05:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by eileen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be honest with you, Nothing impossible, but it will be hard to find a man who is willing to go from 0 to 6 kids in 2 seconds (I do). Don't worry about the kids, just go out an date. Enjoy yourself (get your tubes tighned if your just that hot) and just enjoy the date. Don't give up on love you'll find it. Make sure you have yourself ready because you will find a couple of men (the ones that want your stuff, they know you got 6 kids so they know your sex ready), but only one will be for you.
2007-09-05 09:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are men out there that will fall in love with you and your children. It just takes time, the old saying is when your not looking there it is. As far as giveing up your power,that will come when you meet that one and only,but never give all your power away you have earned that right!
2007-09-04 22:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in love. I believe that love will find anyone open to allowing it in. It does happen whether you have one, four, or six children.
I used to believe that men did not want women with children. I quickly learned after my divorce that I was wrong! It seemed I had more dates than before I was married. Maybe it was because I was finally open to the gift of love.
Be yourself, stay positive and open. There are men out there who love children, despite what the naysayers say. Don't let their negativity bring you down.
2007-08-28 16:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a single mom of 4 who is now in the position of choosing between 2 very positive, loving gentlemen... i say that all things are possible. My kids have never been a deterrent to the men I have chosen to allow into my life. But truly, you need to focus on your children and yourself. Love will come.
it will take a strong man to work well with you. when you are used to handling so much on your own, it is hard to relinquish the controls. but you shouldn't give in lightly to any man. more importantly than worrying about if a man will consider your kids as baggage, please also watch out for the pedophiles who seek out women such as ourselves for the purpose of exploiting our children.
even with 2 promising candidates at this point, I am really considering flying solo until my kids are older. it's easier for me to trust someone with my heart than to trust them with my kids.
2007-09-04 17:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by QueenBeeFee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but from what I am told, what I read, and see, not many men will simply jump on you, so you have to get out thier. once your noticed then he will indeed step in, however it seems to me that he will ONLY step in if your worth it, and if you can honestly support your own children. They dont seem to care as much about the kids as they do on rather or not you can support them on your own.
2007-08-28 16:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt need a man to make you happy, you seem to be doing fine on you own, do you even have time or energy at the end on the day? I think if you do meet a nice man you shoud also go on BIRTH CONTROL!
2007-08-28 16:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by fish for a day 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋