OK, so I have been having some sort of relationship with this guy, I am married but I know this one since before that. It was a sexual relationship but lately it is more of a friendship. I have helped him alot with money, over again. He moved to another city about 2 years ago. He got me a phone on his line so we could talk with no problems. Last big financial help was 1 month ago. This week I tried to call and the phone was out of service. Looked up on the internet and he had changed the number. Text him and he said he was going to tell me but he is seeing someone and they had seen our texts. Should I just cut him off or give him another chance. He says we are still good, whatever that means. I have someone who loves me so much, so why do I feel so hurt by this guy?Its not that he is seeing someone, but that he didnt tell me about the change of number, after I helped him out so much. Should I cut off all contact or try to talk? its affecting me in a physical way. I cant eat, or sleep
2007-08-28 15:59:15 · 53 answers · asked by psa73 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I would personally do this.....
Trash his phone, make him pay me back or take him to court. Obviously he is a "sleeper" and has no need of a permanent relationship at this time in his life, therefore, he doesn't want you right now, but wants you available for the next time HE is lonely. It is all about him, not you. What he wants, when he wants it and he doesn't care about how you feel. Ummm, maybe you could find out the other womans number and form a support group.
Go back to your husband and get over this dude. You'll eventually heal.
2007-08-29 05:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married so you friendship with this guy should just be on a friendship level and that is it. What did your husband say about giving this guy money and the cell phone? I'm guessing he doesn't know or at least doesn't know everything. You are doing your marriage wrong and that is what you should be upset about. Forget this guy (see below) and start focusing on your husband.
Now this other guy has taken your money but purchased you a cell phone and changed the plan. On top of that he got caught texting with you. The only way he could get "caught" is if he had a girlfriend and your texting wasn't guilt free...which means that he was cheating in a way. I'm sorry but he doesn't sound like the kind of guy you need.
You can't eat or sleep because of the bad karma you have created and fed. Stop with him and start working on your marriage.
2007-08-28 16:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA you got played you act like a hoe you get treated like one,you got a husband and is giving your family money away dumb,just dumb.He was just using you why else would a man want to mess with a married person he's not looking for nothing but sex or money what else can you do for him.I wish you luck when you are sitting in hell oh and by the way remember this what goes around comes around and it may not be today or tomorrow but one day you will be hurt in a bad way to see your hubby gettin it on with one of your friends
2007-08-28 16:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sabrina B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats pretty messed up. You really should end one relationship before starting another one.
Cut him off or give him another chance at what? Getting your money?
You may have someone who loves you so much (assuming you mean your husband)... if the tables were turned and it was your husband holding on to a past relationship of his, would that be ok with you?
Time to be honest don't you think...
2007-08-28 16:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't seem like a healthy relationship. When you have a relationship like this you really don't have the luxury to have "hurt feelings." You are married and I am not passing judgment but if there is something wrong with your marriage you should be concentrating on that, rather it be to fix it or get a divorce. In my opinion you should cut this relationship off and deal with your marriage. So no it is not ****** up when you are dealing with deception that is what happens.
2007-08-28 16:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by ebony1812003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, you count him more on not telling the change of number than seeing someone? Changing number is his way out and you should read how things going on. You're a milking cow, wake up! It hurts but will heal in time, turn back to the one who has the right and deserve your love and concern, not to a guy taking advantage of you in everything. Good luck and God bless
2007-08-28 16:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by dalton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is very messed up he is using you because you help him out with money and he doesn't even have to do the you know what with you to get it x x x x x x x x x x x x x this guy out of your life forever your hurt because you feel used and you have been used and this is not all good ffffff him for that stupid line ever hurd the old saying First time shame on you second time shame on me ......... well their it is shame on you next time shame on him this time ... and why would you take a chance on such a loser like him if you have someone who is in love with you your going to lose your marrage over this piece of s**t . Get over it the guy is just using you and you both are disrespecting your marrage
2007-08-28 16:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by melanie o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not still having sex with this guy...that's pretty f-ed up. It sounds like he's trying to "get rid" of you and not wanting to repay you. I would cut him off. Is he really this important to you? Plus, it could be trouble if you 2 have had a previous sexual relationship.
2007-08-28 16:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by O->--< 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was screwed up and destined to be a disaster from the beginning. Gather up your dignity, or find some, and walk away. Then when you have some dignity, try giving some to your spouse. If you don't want to be married, then fine, you should get a divorce.
2007-08-28 16:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by CB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you have a good marriage why stray? Obviously he is using you for back up and money. I bet he calls in a little while wanting more, when he breaks up with this one or she runs out of money. Sorry don't mean to be harsh, I've seen it before.
2007-08-28 16:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by wanda p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋