My dad died and my fathers new wife would not let my mom, family and friends attend. What would you have done?

Question

The first viewing when my father passed away, my mom, family and friends attended. On the second day, my fathers current wife would not allow my mom, family and friends to attend his Rosary and funeral. She made my grandma and my fathers brothers and sisters stand in the 100 degree heat. She stated that she did not want my mom, family and friends to attend. I just want to get someone else's opinion on this situation. Some of my family and friends came as far as 300 miles to show there respect.

Answer 1

I think that was uncalled for .That was awfful let her know one day she is going to die too, she has no respect for her self not only your Mom and her family. I will still let her know how i feel about it.Let her know she is acting like a child. You be the adult tell her sadness and sorrow subtains us when our love one dies therefore we need prayer and comfort.

Answer 2

How sad that people treated you and your family this way. She had no right to keep those who cared about him as much as it seems they did, coming from miles away and making them stand in such heat. She must be a very insecure woman to treat you and the others that way. My guess is that she is afraid that in some way, she may lose some of the benefits of whatever insurance he may have had. You should get a lawyer to see if you have been put in your Fathers will because you deserve to know what he wanted to go to you in case of his death. There is more to this episode than grieving second wife's sadness, check the will and also get a lawyer that can arrange to have your fathers assets accessed.

Answer 3

Honestly, I would have gone anyway. What is she going to do if 20 of his FAMILY MEMBERS came to the funeral.

If she decided to make a scene about your (and your relatives) appearance; she would have looked like a huge *****. She would have looked like the fool.

I guarantee should would not have said anything at that moment. She might have started something after, but Oh. Well. At least you got to pay your last respects to your father.

Answer 4

I don't mean to be rude or disrespectful ( and Im so sorry for your loss) whats done is done, but I woulda' pushed shoved, shouted made a huge scene, and the police would have probably been called, especially if the "physically" tried to remove me.... If I couldn't attend and pay respect, NO ONE would get to either

Answer 5

Ok now I see where you are coming from. Your father and your mom divorced and he remarried. Then after he died his new wife didn't want his previous family to have anything to do with him.

I would have gone anyway just to pay respect to your dad. I would have told her to put her prejudices behind her. And if she still objected I would have B-slapped her.

Answer 6

I think it's horrendous that she turned your mom, family and friends away. At least at a time like this, put hard feelings aside and come together peacefully to celebrate a loved one's life.

Answer 7

I would think she would want his family around. What a mean thing to do at such an emotional time. I would've gone anyway and she'd just have to get over it.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss, and I really hate to hear stories like this, because the services were about your father, not about her, it's terrible you had to go through that

Answer 9

that is sad, its hard to say when its a loved one gone. it means a fight and i am not saying you have to do this. but you could have the family have a mass said or whatever religion they are or something for themselves a memorial and they could have had it themselves with out her. that is how i would have handled it.

Answer 10

i feel you right if she was you stepmom did she pay for the funeral or was it split he is you father and she should of allowed his family to attend was she jealous of your mom i mean could that of been a reason. if she plans on staying in the family i would say tell her how you feel and why? good luck