Funeral Fashion?

Question

My mother passed away last week-end.
I'm in charge of 2 services one in town and one out of town.
Everyone will meet at my house then go together to the
funeral in town then back to my house for a family B-Q.
My question is do I wear the same outfit to both services or different outfits. And what style or outfits would be best.
Not a business outfit or fancy outfit. I want to look real good.
Not plain. I have a lot of black and dark colors.
Are dresses or pant outfits more popular. All the women who are going called and said they will wear pants outfits. Thank-you for all your help.

Answer 1

i think you should wear the same thing... you dont want to look like you are trying to get attention.... im very sorry about your loss. good luck with everything you should wear a nice black dress

Answer 2

Classy women wear a little black dress with a pearl necklace.

If the in-towners won't be going to the out of town service wear that same dress NO pant suits. That is VERY tacky to a funeral. If THEY are doing it, YOU need to show class, and respect for your mother! A nice wide brim black hat is good too. Very Classy!

Check out the Major desinger dresses below. There are some very versitile dresses here that I'm sure you would look great in. Just get the idea. You can get one cheaper.

Sorry to hear about your mom.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear your mother passed away,. I know that is hard for you. Losing a mother is tough.
Wear whatever makes you comfortable.Dresses and pants suits will be fine, wear what you like. You can wear the same outfit to both or change and wear something a bit more casual to the B-Q.
Try to be good to yourself, you are going through a lot at this time...try not to stress.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry well my grandma died in march and I wore gray pants that go to the knee that are kind of fancey and a brown top with brown high heels a necklace and diamond stud earings. The second day brown pants with pink stripes to the knee and a pink top and little tan scketers and hoop silver earings with a tiffany white gold necklaca with of couse make up good luck and feel better the heartacke will go away but it will take time and don't think you have to wear black only if you want to also water proof mascara i know from experience

Answer 5

I`m sorry about your mother. Pants outfits are more popular, but you could always pull of a dress. I would wear different outfits to both services, but it wouldn`t be strange if you didn`t. Once again sorry. Good luck with your outfits.

Answer 6

To start I am very sorry about your mother. I suggest wearing all black because this is a time of mourning for you. I know urban outfitters has some nice black dresses that you could wear like this onehttp://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?_dyncharset=ISO-8859-1&_dynSessConf=3956537025580193279&itemdescription=true&itemCount=8&id=13405246&parentid=W_APP_DRESSES&sortProperties=%2Bproduct.marketingPriority%2C-product.startDate&navCount=6&_D%3AnavCount=+&navAction=poppush&color=01&_DARGS=%2Furban%2Fcatalog%2Fcommon%2Fitemlink.jsp..either fancy or not fancy.

Or if you want to go for the pant suits here is a style you might like:
http://www.lifeinitaly.com/fashion/img/image004.jpg
It is a little more on the business side(sorry) but it is a perfect suit for the funeral.
I suggest the dress the most though. It is very "in"

My condolences to you and you family

Answer 7

Sorry to hear about your Mother. I would wear different outfits to each service. Ma bey a dress to the first one and a nice pants suit to the other one.

Answer 8

In either instance you want to:

look repectable
be comfortable

Not only do you have to play hostess, and "put on a show" for all involved, you have to deal with your own personal feelings.

Wear different outfits.

something somber and elegant for the funeral.

Something breezy-NO SKIN! No SHORTS (a long broom skirt? a long airy dress?) as you will most likely be serving food and doing odd jobs to service your guests.

I don't think black is expected at the BBQ.- but nothing flashy. somber is the rule again- comfort is key.

Remember, funerals are for the living. not the dead.

Answer 9

1] wear one nice dark dress/pantsuit/skirtsuit one day, and a different one the second day. Black, gray, navy, even dark purple or dark green are ok.
2] Wear comfortable, plain dark shoes. - if you have to go to the cemetary, you don't want heels.
3] dress as if you are going to church - clean, decent, subdued a bit.
4] provide extra tissues, and carry aspirin/tylenol and something for indigestion in your purse - grief is not nice to your body.
5] unfortunately, I have been to many,many funerals - I know how to dress for them.
Will keep your mom in my prayers, and you too - I know there is a big hole right now where your heart is supposed to be, but time makes it less painful - and your mom would want you to be happy.
Drink a lot of fluids
Eat what you can
Get some rest
Go for a walk every day you can

Answer 10

I would wear the same outfit for both services and wear dress pants with a nice shirt. If you hair is curly straighten it if its straight curl it, and wear heels or flats. You dont want to look like your excited for the event because its not that happy. . .sorry for your loss.

Answer 11

By no means take this as offense,
But dress as plainly as possible.

Black slacks, black kitten heels or flats, and a nice black blouse would be great.

Don't show too much skin, you're there to pay your respects, not for a fashion show or to steal the attention.