A former best friend of mine is lying to me and a mutual friend of ours. He's also lying to me and telling her something different to where we don't know why or how he would do this. He has played mind games with me like hes doing to her. I can't stay out of it because he got me involved when he told her one thing and me another. I don't care what he did to me in the past hes forgiven but I've had it with him and I want him out of my life for good. I will continue to be there for my other friend and I need to do my best in not letting my advice to her be because of what he did to me. I want to support her in any choices. But to do this I need to get away from him. Should I confront him on what hes doing to me? I would never bring up my friend because its her choice to confront him on her own. Should I walk away from him without a goodbye or should I have closure by telling him goodbye? He is very short tempered and I don't think I have the energy to talk to him now.
2007-08-28 15:13:54 · 7 answers · asked by EchosOfAngels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't owe him an explanation or anything for that matter after what he's done to you. It sounds like you know it will start a fight if you confront him which means no actual closure just more drama. However, if it's really important to you that you speak to him, do it in a letter. He can't argue with it and you have the choice as to whether or not you have to ever read his response back. Good luck to you and your friend. It's great that you are there for her.
2007-08-28 15:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just walk away. And if your advice to your friend is coming from what the guy has done to you in the past, owell. Matter of fact, that is even better, because you are not making unbiased judgments, but rather, speaking from experience. Your friend should appreciate that, and the fact that you are looking out for her best interests because you do not want her hurt the way you were. Good luck.
2007-08-28 22:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should write him a letter, letting him know how you feel, and tell him that this might need to be the end of your friendship. If he gets ridiculous about it just cut him out of your life. Don't let something negative like this rule your life.. rest.. write him that letter.. and find a positive outlet.
2007-08-28 22:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by amandaelizabeth52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to understand but it is sounds like you should let go of this guy, tell your friend what you need to to protect her and never talk to this jerk again. Best wishes.
2007-08-28 22:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him in a series of facts without emotion.
Say, the other day you told me blah, blah, blah. But a contradicting source said yada, yada, yada. I wanted to come to you to confirm which is the real version.
2007-08-28 22:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a note telling him what you think
2007-08-28 22:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WALK AWAY, NO CLOSURE
2007-08-28 22:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by andrespb22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋