Am I being paranoid or overly jealous of my boyfriend's friend that is a girl?

Question

My boyfriend of two and a half years has been talking a lot to this girl he met in grad school. I have found that they email back and forth rather frequently and that they also Instant message each other as well. Just recently I found her ipod over at his house that he said he was working on fixing and adding new songs to it. I should say we met through a internet dating site where we got more and more interested as we chatted longer and longer via email/instant messenger and sometimes talked on the phone in the beginning of our relationship. I am just worried that in time he might start to grow feelings for her. They are going through some of the same things, such as both being laid off of their job at relatively the same time and also are going to grad school to continue their education. I see that they have several similarities and Im starting to feel a little threatened by their close friendship. Am I being overly jealous or paranoid?

Answer 1

Not I don't think you are being paranoid at all.

I would be jealous as anyone could be.

You need to have a sit down talk with him and explain how this makes you feel. How he wouldn't like it if you had a guy friend that you was communicating with like he is with this girl.

I think guys and girls can be friends, but there is always a chance something more could come of it...
If you are having these feelings then you need to trust in your feelings, usually your instincts are right.

Good luck, faith