Desperate Wife!?

Question

Since my husband can't get an erection, hasn't had one for months now and therefore we haven't had sex in months, should I cheat on him?

Answer 1

how can you even ask?


of course you should

and do it when you know he will catch you so you can laugh at him and point and say things like "see this is how a real man lays pipe"

Answer 2

Your husband can't get an erection? Has he been to see a doctor? Unless he's in his eighties,or has a medical problem he should be able to get an erection especially after a few months without. Maybe he's cheating and that's why he can't get an erection. I'd give him the benfit of the doubt and make him see a doctor. If he refuses, then that will make your decision easier. But then that also brings into question why you stay married to him. If you go without sex long enough, the relationship just dies. Hope you find the answers you need.

Answer 3

NO! you should encourage your husband to go to the doctor. It might be a medical condition that can be addressed or it might be a mental issue and need to see a therapist. You might be the issue, honey, and thus it might be your fault that he can't get an erection. If things don't work out do the noble thing and divorce unless he is okay with you going out with other men. However, if you decide to cheat you will break something in your marriage that no matter how hard you try it will never be the same.

Answer 4

When you marry someone it is for better and for worse. That means that NO you should not cheat just because he is having problems. There are several other options out there. Pills for him, oral sex and sex toys that you could experiment with. So if you love your husband find another way than cheating. If you don't love him and you really do want to cheat then you should consider divorce before you do anything.

Answer 5

How old is your husband that he can't have an erection? How old are you if I don't mind asking? There are certainly options available to you where cheating isn't necessary. Maybe having your husband watch you with another man would excite everyone without being distrustfull. Different strokes for different folks!

Answer 6

No! You should never be dishonest with anyone, especially your partner.

Have you talked to him about this issue? If not, maybe you should--but be very, very tactful! If he is having trouble getting erections, he is probably embarrassed. Nevertheless, it is important that he understands how vital physical intimacy is to you. Communication is key.

Either way, the two of you need to find out what is causing the problem. It could be a number of different things: diet, depression, stress, age, drugs, etc. Once the two of you have narrowed it down, you should seek the help of a doctor or therapist.

Best of luck, and I hope you two work it out!

Answer 7

If your child was ill, would you just kill them, and have another? hmm my wedding vows said something like "in sickenss, and in health,.." have you tried talking to him about your problem, or did you marry him just for the physical relationship? My husband has been deployed for almost 23 months now, and we are not expecting him to return for about 8 more months, and not once have i even thought of cheating on him, or course i have feelings, and needs and wants, but that doesnt mean i am so superficial as to give into bodily lust, when my heart is hundreds of thousands of miles away, be thankful he is still with you and you can share a smile, holding hands, eating and sleeping side by side, i never know if the next phone call is the one telling me he is never coming home again, so please consider yourself lucky, and hug and kiss him just because you can!!

Answer 8

Would you consider yourself sexy? Maybe mentally, he just isn't up to the task when looking at his sex partner. Someone ahead of me suggested he may already be cheating. This could be the case if he finds you unattractive. Combine his possible revulsion towards your appearance, and coming home spent from some little hottie, it's no wonder he doesn't want to get it up for you. If you are a little HOTTIE yourself, then get some help one way or another!

Answer 9

Nope. You don't want a divorce just yet, and you don't want to cause the divorce.
Just haul his little self down to a doctor.
It could be stress. It could be a urological disorder.
He needs help.

Consider getting him a food herb called "Maca"... you build a couple of tablespoons into his morning smoothie every day (that is the easiest way). What it does is support the entire endocrine system, and it will make a person "in the mood".

Answer 10

Desperate one......put yourself in your husband's shoes....how do you think he feels? I'm sure he feels useless and rejected. Has he had his problem checked out? Does he still please you regardless of him not being able to have an erection? There are plenty of ways for a man to please a women without having vaginal intercourse...try other options. Maybe the experimentation will be arousing for him and you'll add to both his pleasure and yours. I know that I would rather please the woman who I am with than myself when it comes to sexual experiences. I'm sure your husband is feeling pretty inadequate not being able to do so himself. When you got married you signed up to be by his side through thick and thin, no matter what. If you were having a problem, would you want for him to run off and leave you for the arms of another woman? Stick by his side and experiment....your love will get you through his problem.

Answer 11

NO!! That is not an excuse to cheat on your hubby. When you took your vows, you did not say "until E.D. do us part"

Perhaps you should let him know how much this is affecting your marriage and see if he would seek medical advice. There are medications for men who have difficulty in this area.

If you are going to cheat on him, why not just divorce him and find someone who DESERVES to be with him and will be faithful to him regardless of the situation.