would you feel upset if your spouse came home hours late every night without calling to tell you where they r

Question

and didn't even give you the respect or decency to give you a call to let you know where they were and when they would be home?and make you sit and wait for them??????

plus keep their cell phone shut off????
and when they get back they play innocent like they couldn't help not calling...

Answer 1

hell ya- she can at least tell me or id divorce her

Answer 2

They do need to let you know when they are coming home. Tell them that if they can't be reached by cell phone and get home at a decent hour, then the door will be locked and they can sleep elsewhere. Until you are persuaded to let them back in the house. Tell them it's the first step to being thrown out of the house completely and so they should think twice.

Answer 3

This has happened to me a time or two. Did you wring his neck? Because that is what I did when mine got home! He didn't want the "old lady" calling him in front of his friends and since he is a grown adult thought it was okay to trapse about til 4am..sigh.. some men. You seriously need to express to him how much this pisses you off.. but most importantly why it worries you so.. because you love him. If you go without saying anything he will think it is okay and will continue to do as he pleases. It isn't like your trying to keep a leash on him.. you just want to make sure he is okay.. and should a emergency arise you need to be able to get ahold of him. Don't tolerate his actions.. but yet make it clear you are upset for a good reason. :) He needs to have respect for you and your feelings :) Good Luck, Reese

Answer 4

Okay, I notice that you have two questions back to back. Lets answer this one first. Unfortunately, you are probably being cheated on. If he is shutting off his cell phone and not taking your calls, and according to your next question, you are seriously ill , he is showing you that he does not care about you, or being there for you if you were to need him. I know that this is not what you may want to hear, but yes, you should leave him. He is not into this relationship right now, so find someone who will appreciate you.Blessings....

Answer 5

My friend had that problem. I will tell you what corrected it. No he was not cheating with another woman. He was at the bar. She left home for 24 hours. They are both in their 50's (at the time this happened) He thought he was unable to make any food for himself. He learned a lesson and has not done it since. My husband knows better than to not call me. He also knows when dinner is put on the table. If you are not home then he reheats it.

Answer 6

In a situation like this you have to talk to him about it and if he doesn't change, you have to give him a taste of his own medicine, You do the same thing he is doing. You can go to a friend's house, parent's house or you can ride around. Once you do that, then he will know exactly how you feel.

Sometimes you have to prove a point and what a better way to do that.... Don't forget to turn your phone off...

Answer 7

this has happened with me so many times, and i have just been busy with work. so busy that i have not been to the loo or called anyplace or anyone........ just work work and work.

so why should she get hassled that i did not call, and it is not indecent to be caught up in work. not making the phone call does not mean that i did not think about her, but i did and again got swamped by some work or the other.

imagine i come home after a 15 hour day and all i get is a welcome screaming about not calling home ! not caring etc. and all along all that i have been doing is working hard.

so what do you say about this ?

it will be good if you sat and talked it with your man, and not get excited about the situation. ask, don't demand the phone call. don't pass judgment on him if he just at work.

try a different tack - make his favorite food and wait up for him, don't complain ever, make love to him and take good care and see what happens .......... in a few weeks he will change by himself, just have some patience.

and a request to womankind ...... please open the lines of communication !!

Answer 8

Look you have to confront him. This is exactly what happened to me we had just got married (two weeks) never happened before he started coming home late. I would not eat thinking he will be home soon but I was wrong. One night he came home till 12am I lock his *** out of my house told him why did we get married if you are going to be leaving me a long. I started losing interest in him then realized we should get a divorce once I said "Divorced" all of a sudden things changed. It's still up & down but thats every couple.

I'm not sure if this will help your situation but it worked for me. Good Luck.

Answer 9

You don't say how long this has been going on. Personally, it is a matter of having consideration for your spouse so they don't worry. I wouldn't put up with it. Now ask your spouse, what if I did that how would you feel? Now if it keeps up, then you do it. Or act like you don't care, and do not sit up waiting on your spouse or have a dinner waiting either. Good luck.

Answer 10

I sure wouldn't keep waiting for him. I would not feel respected, loved or important. I would get a life. Obviously he has -- and it isn't with you. Sit him down and find out if he wants to be married or not. If he does than you need to agree on some ground rules regarding how you treat someone you love. You don't treat your best friend like this. Most people wouldn't even treat total strangers like this. He needs to get his priorities straight. If he doesn't, then find something to do other than him. I would let him see how it feels. He is being a selfish ***.

Answer 11

Uh oh... Uhm for one... He's hiding something... and two... I'd castrate his *** right now!

And yeah, I'd be really pi ssed if my spouse did that to me... because I've grown up with this kind of treatment... Divorce his *** if he's cheating on you... NOBODY deserves that kind of treatment... you may feel like you should stick with hiim because of your views... but in the long run when you look back at life... you might think, "I should have divorced his *** back when I had the chance."

But then again, everyone is different. I'm sowwy if this is what I think it might be.... I'm so sorry hun... but if he's just out late with his friends... I'd still castrate him... Just because he kept you worrying about the, "what if's."

Don't let him play with you and tell you that you're just over-exagerating... because if the situation was reversed.... and he was the one to be done that too... he wouldn't like that... I wish he would realize that...