money and marriage?

Question

When you get married you share the money you both earn, right? So if the husband is in complete control of who uses what money, and doesnt let anyone else keep it..is that against the law?

Answer 1

Not against the law, but it is very controlling of him...

Answer 2

Money is one of the most common arguments between married couples. I like the yours, mine and ours approach, if both spouses earn income. Even in my single income family, my husband and I each get an "allowance" that we can spend on anything we wish and not be held accountable to the other. When one person has total control of all the money, it creates an imbalance of power.

I cannot speak to the legalities of it, but if he holds all the $$ in a bank account that you cannot access, then it is a form of domestic abuse. If you earn a paycheck of your own, I suggest you open your own bank account, NOW!
If he is unwilling to re-negotiate the control of money, I'd be calling a counselor.

Answer 3

Not illegal just controlling. He had total control of his money until you got married and may not be able to give up that control. It is hard for some men to do. You need to sit him down and tell him how things are going to be. If that doesn't work make sure you have your money in a separate account. Good Luck

Answer 4

The money situation is base on the agreement between man and woman. If the couple divorce, the judge has to decipher the agreement that was made, but its not against the law.

My advice is to have a separate account. You and your husband should have your own saving. Use the main account to pay bills and other relationship expensive...God bless.

Answer 5

No, that is called stupidty on the part of the wife and there are no laws against stupidity. When a couple get's married they should have a joint account that they BOTH contribute to that maintains the house and bills and they should each have their own accounts.

Answer 6

A woman should always have a secret savings account to always be prepared, if the marriage is a success through the years, it makes a great surprise. Although your husband sounds too controlling and you need a separate account.

Answer 7

we both work, but my husband has this crazy idea that he is the MAN, and therefore it is his duty to care for his family, he pays all the bills, plus his own spending money, i work, and we make about the same thing, but i buy all the groceries and extras, plus i pay for our childs private school, and anything she or i need, but we each pay our own church tithes, and sometimes if he runs short he will tell me and i will give him money, and if i run short, i tell him, and he gives me money, but we never fight, or argue over money, because its just not worth it to us but try talking to him about it, and if he is still unreasonable, divide the bills up, and you pay some and let him pay some, and each of you will have money left over, and maybe you can reach a compromise, good luck

Answer 8

No but, I would stop putting my pay check in the bank. I would just go cash it. Things should be 50/50 not unless you have bad spending habits...But, even then you need to sit down and have a long talk with your hubby...

Answer 9

No silly, but you need to speak up and tell him in the beginning its all share alike. Usually one is more prone to save and one likes to spend. BUT it should all be discussed BEFORE you married OR problems will arise.

Answer 10

No it is called being controlled.