I'm about to be roommates with a certain someone. We're not friends. We are merely just acquaintances and we're about to sign a lease good for one year to rent and share a room together just the two of us. We're both from the same country and working as expats in a foreign land. It'll be my 1st time to share a room with someone for that long of a period. Any ideas/suggestions on how to maintain good relations with a roommate would help out a lot. We're both female btw.
2007-08-28 13:42:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be considerate, courteous, respectful of the other person and try to give each other as much space as you can. Good luck - I wouldn't want to be in your shoes.
2007-08-28 13:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing a room with one person you do not know well is hard. Had to do it in college with a total stanger the first time out. It's easier with someone you know.
While it's important to find out if this is an Odd Couple combination, a bigger issue is how they handle their finances and if they are basically honest - meaning will they lie about the little things as well as the big. I'd insist on a credit check, references, and I'd also check to make sure they work where they say they do. A peek at a passport would be in line as well.
If you've already done all that, then the killer roommate issues are smoking, drugs, sex partners, tolerance to each other's messes and noise levels, partying/drug/alcohol use and snoring. If you are an introvert, quiet at homebody type who regards sleep as sacred - having a party girl roommate could be a pretty strong taste of hell.
If you are sharing an apartment rather than an room, the snoring and sex are not such big issues, but the partying tolerance could be.
2007-08-28 20:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those make the best roommates! Keep that nice balance of friendly but not best friends. You'll find it a great experience. Hang out, have dinner or drinks once a week or something like that, but don't become inseperable- you'll drive eachother nuts!
Also, ground rules are important. Before you sign the lease, sit down and make house rules together (Do your own dishes, lock the door, pay bills on the 1st of the month, etc.) and the #1 rule should always be that you speak to eachother when there is an issue. That will keep things out in the open!
Have a great time!
2007-08-28 20:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to try to be neater and cleaner than usual to try to respect one another's space. Most of it is common sense, really. Work out a plan on how to deal with guests--as in, if someone brings a guy home, how will that be handled? Agree before the situation happens. Also talk about how you will handle sound--like radio--and what time you go to bed so that you both understand if the lights need to be off early. Mostly just try to communicate a lot and good luck.
2007-08-28 20:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by muriel12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might be a bad idea. You don't know her habits, her level of cleanliness, her temperament, nor her communications style.
It has been my experience that female roommates seem to fight with each other quite a lot about almost everything.
2007-08-28 20:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you shareing a room or a apartment? I don't think I could share a room with anyone but my husband and I would still like to have my own room.
2007-08-28 20:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by pooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cope
2007-08-28 20:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mess with her stuff n u will be all good
2007-08-28 20:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by big daddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋