2007-08-28 13:38:57 · 15 answers · asked by gassniffer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, for my husband I am moving to another state to be with him -- thousands of miles away from family, friends and the life I know now. People often think of what they had to give up rather than the blessings that a lifelong friendship and love that marriage can bring. Did the fun things you enjoyed include going out and partying with your friends? Checking out the ladies at bars? I'm just wondering what you considered fun. If having the kind of fun you used to have isn't disrespectful to your marriage then there really is no reason for you to have stopped it completely. Moderation is key.
Marriage changes things. It's naive and selfish to think that either partner shouldn't have to change anything. Of course you have to change certain behaviors once you're married but think of what you're getting instead.
2007-08-28 14:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you give up your friends and the things you enjoyed? It seems that you made a choice to give up those things. If you have that attitude you will become resentful of your wife. In my own marriage I noticed that we started spending more time with other couples instead of with our single friends. Eventually our single friends got married and we spend time with them now as couples. It is tragic that you feel that you "gave up" so many things. Also, if there are things that you enjoy doing that your wife does not, it is okay to continue doing it independent from your spouse, within reason of course.
2007-08-28 20:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have to give up those things? Yes, your wife now comes first, but you can still hang with friends and have fun. Unless those friends were females, I don't see why your wife would have cared if you hang with them. The only thing you should ever HAVE to give up is being emotionally, or physically involved with anyone besides your wife (in the dating/relationship sense.) If your wife is against you spending time with your friends, maybe invite her along and introduce her. She won't need to go everytime, but if she sees that your just a bunch of "boy" having a good time together, maybe she will see that its okay and not worry about it. Good Luck.
2007-08-28 20:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by donnakygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave up everything. I don't do anything, but take care of the kids and the house. Oh yeah and the yard. The most fun I have is going to Walmart once a week.
2007-08-28 20:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We give up a lot of the same thing. Why don't ou work out a guy's night monthly and do something you enjoy. Lety your spouse do the same thing-at least once a month.
2007-08-28 20:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Dana E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well eventully things like friends and partying dwindle off but you should not have had to give up everything. the only reason friends and such dwindle is because of kids and family but friends can still be there. I dont know why you let go of everyone.
2007-08-28 21:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither party should have to give up their friends or anything else.(within reason of course) unfortunately, as time goes on, we get caught up in our daily lives and wake up one day realizing that's just what we've done. women give up the same things as men do but not on purpose.
2007-08-28 21:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah you are so sweet... but you dont have to count or compare what you gave up for your wife. there are maybe somethings that she sacrifice or gave up that you did not notice because you only see maybe yourself. try ask your wife and talk about this thing so everything would be clear. goodluck
2007-08-28 20:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by larrydlc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make marriage successful, both partners need to make sacrifices. I am doing more than her kind of attitude will not get you anywhere except sour grapes.
2007-08-28 21:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Nikhil Son 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never gave up anything, nor did my husband.
is your wife controlling?
you should be joining your lives together, not leaving one of them in the dust.
2007-08-28 21:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kaja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋