What do you think???

Question

My little girls is 3 and a half months old and is name Jewel Ariana..me and my husband to be love the name..but his mom is being really mean about it...she can't stand the name..what do you all think of it?

She has started to call her by her middle name and I have asked her many times to stop...I just don't know what to say or do. She loves Jewel but she is just really rude about her name..like yesterday we were at lunch and one of her friends came up and had never seen Jewel and my future MIL said "This is my granddaughter Ariana." and I was like "Her name is Jewel." and she (MIL) gave me a dirty look.

Answer 1

omg
And bf lets her get by with that kind of crap?
It will start with the name and she will continue to be a pain throughout your life together.
She is rude and self centered.
This is your bf job to give his mother boundries. otherwise she will step on everything you guys ever do.
It isn't her job to rename the baby. And it sure isnt' up to her concerning the name. She is being a bullie and your bf is letting her do so. He needs to have some balls and stand up for his family. Yes, you and baby are his family. His mother is NO longer in charge. He has grown up and it is time for him to say to her.......
"please don't disrespect our choice of name. Her name is Jewl and please stop calling her by her middle name. If you continue to do so, then you can't come over. This is MY family. I love you mom, and want you part of our lives, but my woman and kid comes first now."

There is a good book about boundries. Gosh if you guys don't set them now she will booby trap your relationship until you guys make it or break it.

Time for Daddy to be a man.

I am a grandma. And I respect the choice of names of my grandchildren. It wasn't my job to name them And I can give my ideas. but it is up to them what to name their own child.
I know that if I am not a butting in grandma that I will see my grandkids more often and the family won't tremble when I come to see them. Your mother in law is a fool to act like she is acting. She needs to grow up and realize she isn't the boss of everyone.

Good luck. Have your BF read this.

P. S. read up on Passive Agressive personalities. It sounds like your mother in law is a classic one.

Answer 2

She needs to get over it. That is YOUR daughter not hers. You chose the name you wanted (if you wanted her to be called Ariana you would of made that her first name). SHE NEEDS TO STOP IT!! Not only is it rude and disrespectful if she continues it will confuse your little girl when she gets a little older.

I do happen to like ariana better BUT there is absolutely nothing wrong with Jewel.. I think the only reason I like ariana better is because my mom has a cat named jewel so I think of her...but I think it is a pretty name and you need to do something to make her stop it. Good luck to you!!!

Answer 3

It is common for people to be called by 2 different names. I know a family whos kids all grew up being called by their middle names at home but at school were called by their first names. Their friends call them either one. I think your future MIL was being rude though to give you a dirty look when correcting her on the name. Maybe just let her go on with it and ignore it, or if people ask what her name is, and your MIL answers, just add on "Her full name is Jewel Ariana, but her Gramma calls her Ariana". My mom calls my son Chappie, which is a nickname she gave him when he was first born. His name is actually Sean. She has said "This is my grandson Chappie..." to people. At first it bothered me a little, but now its just normal to me. More than likely calling her by her middle name makes your MIL feel somehow closer to her.

Answer 4

I think it's a very pretty combination.

Geez, it's not shocking... and it's not HER name, so why does it even matter that much? Why be mean about your grandchild's name? Does she not realize that Jewel would feel horrible if she ever knew Grandma hated her name to the point of cruelty? She should just enjoy the fact that she has a beautiful granddaughter and move on.

Answer 5

I think it is beautiful, and not everyone will have her name when she goes to school.
My mother in law did the same thing to me, she even said she would not call her by her name, so I said OK she wont call you grandma, she looked shocked but dropped it. And when she was around 5 months she looked at me and said "you know her name really does suit her doesn't it?"
You just have to be a bit blunt sometimes when it comes to mother in laws, they do not know when to stop especially when it comes to the grand kids. I am sure mothers are the same way, and yes I would have told my own mom that, but she passed away 4 months before I became pregnant.

It does NOT sound stripperish, that was rude!! No one should be thinking about strippers when it comes to babies anyway.

Answer 6

It is different so she won't get confused when someone calls her name. But at least it isn't something really different and stupid sounding. Ask his mom what she would feel like if you named her Cuddles. And yes, people actually did that to their children.

Answer 7

This "jewel" is your little girl...your MIL needs to keep her silence!

Answer 8

I love the name, she probably jelous her name is not in it!!

Names are hard to think of and you want it just perfect for your child and she should not care about the name its her grandaughters health and wellbeing she should really care about!!

Tell her to get over it, I think its a really pretty name!

Good luck!!

Answer 9

Well, I think you should maybe call her Ariana. I think that name is especially cute. But, just talk to his mother about it. I'm not saying tell her you don't care what she thinks, but i mean, she cant control what you call your baby, you know?

Answer 10

I love the name and since ur the mother she needs to get used to it.