is thiss sadd for a 14 year old.?

Question

ok freshman in high school

blond
108 pounds
blue eyes
no problems


never been kissed

never had a boyfriend



everyonee of my friends have gonee PASTTT making ouutt.

( as in fingeredd...given bj ETC.. && I DONTT WANTT TO DO THOSE THINGSS!!!!!!!!)

all i wantt is a boyfriend. a kiss. maybee a makeoutt. thats all

i'm a TRUEE believer in Christ so non of that pre-marrige stuff.

i always put on a fake face and pretend that everythingg is alright when everything is not.

everyone says that i'm so pretty,gorgeous,cute ETC.

but if all that stuff is true.. why no guys?

they looook at me as more so a friend nothingg moree.. .

how should i change that? and seriously i'm not going to change my personality and i'm not into that fake booob crap.

SERIOUSS ANSWERS... PLEASEE!

mayy God alwayss bless youu.! :)

Answer 1

soooo many people ask the same question on here.
dont change to fit with the crowd, that special guy and special moment will come when its supposed to

Answer 2

You're still very young. Stop stressing over a boyfriend.

I hate how everyone thinks that if you don't have a boyfriend before 16 then something's wrong with you. That's not true at all. Boys your age are still immature.

Remember, boys mental ages are three years behind then girls. So you're 14, but the boys around you are still stuck at 11 in a mental state. (That's what I've read.. Most boys I'm sure are more mature.)

Sit back and enjoy life as it is. I'm not Christian, but if you believe in Christ so much, don't you believe he has reason for you not to have a boyfriend?

14 is too young to go through heartbreak. You may think you can handle it, but when it actually happens, it's depressing. VERY depressing.

What exactly did you mean by "no problems"? No physical problems or mental illnesses? That's a little offensive to some people. Including me, since I have several mental disorders, but I've done just fine with getting boyfriends once I got into highschool. Sophmore year, to be exact.

Don't be in such a rush to grow up. You'll regret it.

Blessed Be. (Yes, I am Wiccan.)

Answer 3

First of all You go girl!!!!! Stick to your beliefs. Second No there is not anything Sad about you .You have morals and you should be proud of them.You are only 14. The only thing you should change is just be honest about how you feel no more putting on a fake happy face.It is probably most likely the boys you choose to associate with .Maybe you just need to back up and look at the boys and make some changes about who attracts you! You don't need to make a rash decision because a girl you know has done this or that.You say you are a true believer in Our Lord Jesus Christ,then believe he will put someone in your life when its time. Good Luck and God Bless you .Keep believing and Being you !!

Answer 4

Two possibilities.. you can chose the one you want.

You wind up an unloved old cat woman. You're life is at its high point right now. Soon things will get worse, much worse, as you try to fit in with the crowd and start using alcohol and drugs.

You become addicted, HIV positive from using dirty needles and live a long time sick and in poverty.

OK that's one scenario. Here's the other one.

You overcome your shyness and begin to understand that you are a pretty remarkable person. You are smart and self sufficient. You have the quality of being absolutely genuine and that is amazing and rare.

People become attracted to you for a variety of reasons, and in a variety of ways but it really always comes down to your own sense of self worth and your personal integrity.

The bottom line is its very difficult to imagine how someone else will love us, if we don't love ourselves first.

Answer 5

You are ONLY 14 remember that first, second - your "friends" that are doing all kinds of sexual things are putting themselves at risk for sexually transmitted deseases and a world of emotional hurt by trying to grow up too quickly. Take your time, when it is right the right guy will come along. Try joining different clubs that will expose you to a variety of different guys - sounds like a church group would be good for you since you are a christian and that way the guy will already have that in common with you - and you'll get to have a lot of fun doing different things too. Never let peer pressure be a reason for changing your values - stick to your guns! I find it very refreshing to know that there are still SOME kids out there with good moral values. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Oh absolutely not!!! I am proud of you in fact. these days it is so hard to find someone like you! I am 15, and in the same exact position! (I don't really want to be kissed!) but I do kind of understand what you mean! Don't let your guard down! God has something wonderful in store for you. If you keep purity in your heart, and body, you won't be dissapointed! You may think the opposite now, but someday it be worth it.God will reward you for serving him.. Don't sweat it, if you never date or have a BF (as of now while you are young) then you won't have the chance to get your heart broken.. which means when your future husband comes around you will be able to give your whole self to him! You should be truly proud!! I hope that this helps, just remember God is there, talk to him, he has everything planned out for you! So leave it all in Gods hands. It will all fall into place someday! but for now, just serve Him and give Him your all~!
p.s. as far as guys only considering you a friend, (to me at least) I would consider that a great compliment! cause you know that they respect you!

Answer 7

I think it sounds like you're confused. You want to buy into the crap that the world is selling you, but then you feel convicted that it's not correct. You need to stick with your convictions and realize that maybe there is a reason that you don't have a boyfriend. I used to believe that I too was going to wait until I was married to have sex, but then I got a girlfriend, we started fooling around and the next thing you know we're having sex on a regular basis, spending the night at her place, etc.

Be glad you don't have a boyfriend, it may just be God's way of helping you to stay pure. Besides, I used to know girls who were Christians that said things like "I'll do anything but have sex", these girls are some of the biggest sluts in my opionion. They're willing to do it all, fingering, oral sex, sometimes even anal sex, but not willing to let a guy inside of her vagina. Hold true to your convictions.

Answer 8

You have to believe in yourself----and this has to continue all your life, not just at 14. You will be all you have, for many years to come.
If all your friends are trashy, get in a new friend-bunch, right away! There is no law saying you have to put up with the trashy girls and look for their approval.
Don't think about guys now---think about the "serious" guy coming along 10 years from now. He is the one you want to save your efforts for, and to concentrate on.
Wasting your time worrying now, and changing your personality now, will only dilute the excitement when you meet someone who really likes you.
Build your identity now, and build your self-love, and self-care now----you will need these qualities for the future.
And, find some new, nicer, friends.

Answer 9

Thats good that u dont want to be fake ... and u will stay who u are ...not faaaaaaaaake ..... u will find the guy u want believe me.. i had a bf and i broke up before 1 week ...
do u think kissing is fun sorry for telling u its not maybe the first time and the secound not fun anymore u will get use to it and u will have enough its will be nothing ..... and if u like ur b and and and one day u will broke up and broke ur heart better wait 1 year more .....

Answer 10

Hey my daughter is 14 and a freshman... and so far I don't think she's done any of those things you seem to think are important. My daughter is a Christian and is very active in the church. You need to get into something you love to do cause you have time for all that other stuff. How about you take a listen to my daughter's favorite song "Average Girl" by the Barlow Girls. Cause God is making someone for you you just have to be patient and wait for him. "Until he comes God arms are the PERFECT place to run"

Answer 11

All I got to say, You are just a million of a million.... Just like so many other girls feeling this. Just remember you are not the only--It is how you deal with this that will make you different...

Girls like this... I think, Im only a guy though.... either become slutty (meaning will do anything with anyone).... desperate (meaning would go with any guy that simply looks at her---the attitude: "I like you, just because you like me"..This could be the subconscious though....aggressive (meaning hitting on guys and such..)....But this is the type of attitude that would get you in drugs and stuff.

Just be glad you have Christ, because he will always guide you and help you. I think he saved you from becoming a whatever.....

If I were you, I would just flirt with guys I like and see what happens. But I would focus on my self and not worry about it...