so my good friend and i... we used to be very close. we literally told each other EVERYTHING about our lives- the random, the sad, the exciting. and we hung out a lot and i loved hanging out with her and we were the best of friends.
but about in april, she started hanging out with a crowd outside of the school and she always hung out with them. and then she became best friends with other people... and i was like, ok. whatever. she can have other friends, right?
whenever i hang out with them... she's like hey! i love you! and i'm like cool, we're still close. then she completely ignores me the rest of the time. so then i try to become friends with other people... but then at school, where none of those friends are, we are close and she hangs around with me all the time. and i'm like, ok cool. we'll be friends again... but then her friends came to school to visit her and she completely ditched me again...
2007-08-28 12:53:41 · 13 answers · asked by heypleasesayyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and i don't know what to do... it hurts every time she does this, because i really want to be good friends with her, but it feels like she doesn't even care... and i'm sick of feeling hurt, but then she does something like send me an email saying we'll be best friends forever or something and then i get my hopes up and.. i don't know.. what should i do?
2007-08-28 12:55:23 · update #1
She obviously doesn't care about you friendship as much as she used too. If she wants to hang out with her group of friends outside school, let her go alone. Tell her you are hanging out with someone else. (preferably a new friend you made). Don't make it seem like you are craving for attention, shes just trying to feel Superior. Still keep her in your life, don't completely shut her out. But shes obviously not making any effort to be your friend, Do the same thing she does to you. Ignore her. Ditch Her, Make her feel like you are feeling. Then talk to her, tell her all the things shes felt is what shes made you feel like. Explain to her, that the way this friendship is going, its going to be hard to keep alive, then tell her you can still be friends, and descent to each other.
Hope this helps somehow.
2007-08-28 13:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. Friends come and go, but best friends are there forever. I have many friends that I seem to rotate between. With the emails she sends, lets you know she still thinks of you.So thats some think to be happy about. You sound young and if you are than you will soon learn that as you get older you have less time for friends anyways. I might talk to one of my best friends once or twice a month. There are things she might like to do with you and other things she might like to do with someone else. Don't hang with her when she’s around her other friends. Just understand that she might even become friends with someone you don't like but that why you don't have to be friends with that person. Also her friends might not like you, so she try’s to say away from you so that you don't get hurt or stop being her friend. And if you can and think she would understand tell her how you are feeling. Hope this helps some.
2007-08-28 21:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but sounds to me as if shes using you until her other friends are a round and you no longer will do.
I would do the sane to her and don't talk orcontact her at school or anything, she will soon realise what shes lost in you and be right back begging.
Be strong and good luck.
2007-08-28 20:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by juniper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That person is NO friend at all. If she were a true friend she would treat you the same no matter who she is around.
Count your losses and find friends of your own, some that you have the same interests.
You deserve a better "friend" that she is supposed to be.
She only speaks to you when her other friends arent around and that just isnt right at all.
2007-08-28 20:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should probably tell her all this, i mean if this is really hurting you, and she says your BFFs then she'll wanna change it and make sure your not feeling left out or whatever. you guys really sound like you have a background together and im sure if you just talk things out you'll start to fall back into your old pattern
2007-08-28 20:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like she still wants to be good friends with u.. but right now she rather hang out with the other ppl.. i guess she thinks that they are kool.. idk dont get to worried about it there are alot of other Friends for u
2007-08-28 20:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes ccontrolling you lol thats nice of her i guess you ignore her and tell her the same thing she told you
2007-08-28 20:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by funky_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to be strong and disengage emotionally from someone who is obviously using you when her other new pals are not around...take the initiative and give her the cold shoulder
2007-08-28 19:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try just telling her how you feel and if she doesnt get it maybe shes not the kind of friend you want to have.
2007-08-28 20:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omgsh im going through the same tthing it doesnt make any sence
2007-08-28 20:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by boggabogga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋