I work in a deli at an Italian food market. There is a russian lady who works there too there and she is so rude to me. She will purposely watch me do something to point out what I'm doing wrong. I've been there long enough to know what I'm doing now but she still continues to criticize me and talk about me behind my back to other people! And I haven't even done anything to her!! What should I do? I don't wanna quit because of ONE lady but my boss won't listen. He thinks shes a hardworker and doesn't wanna get involved. Please help.
2007-08-28 12:44:15 · 13 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Food Service
don't quit just because of her. She might be doing this just because she know she can make you angry and push you to quit. Just ignore her like she does not exist and trust me it will help and pretend like you don't care and smile a lot or talk to your manager about this. I think if you talk to her she may start a conflict.
2007-08-28 13:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation, a hands-off manager and a know it all co-worker. Basically, to her, you need to earn her 'respect', go beyond your job description (not knowing if you are doing so already, just general info). You would first need to 'network' with the people who she is talking to about you behind your back. Once you've established a good working condition with them; they will then make up their own judgment, and maybe, just maybe, influence the russian worker to change her mind.
I had a similar situation at my old job; I established contacts in the firm; introduced myself, talked about how they got into the company, what they went to school for...basically get to know them and they will get to know you.
It may seem ridiculous, but if this lady is old enough to be your mom, treat her as if she was, ask her questions on how to improve, not how to do (because you already know it)...keeps your friends close, but your enemies even closer
2007-08-28 12:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by D_D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit with this Russian lady and tell her that u would like to know that why does she find so many faults with u, and u need to tell her that she needs to let u know what she does not like about ur work. Just criticizing u on ur back is not going to help the situation. u have to be assertive, dont take crap no more, u will suffer more if u do not be strong and speak up.
2007-08-28 13:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. Ask her directly what's her problem with you? It is better to settle it in front of both of you than gossip and worry a lot and deny nothing is bothering. That can cause stress that can lead to weak heart = heart attack. Not joking here. Any grudge that make you feel bad is like an ounce of oil you drank from a bottle.
So, don't be afraid and don't hesitate - nothing is wrong about asking. Why prolong the agony. If she grab your hair - just grab hers too. Be careful on your choice of words though.
2007-08-28 12:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by earth angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try being extra friendly towards her and if that doesn't work, try to just ignore her the best you can and forget about it when you go home.
Her behavior is not a reflection on you. It is a reflection of her own insecurity.
If your boss doesn't think it is an issue, you shouldn't either.
2007-08-28 12:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen just ignore her criticisms. be as u are to every1. you need to have patience. if u loose your cool it is only going to prove that she is right.be good to her . make her feel that what she thinks about u is wrong and care for her. she will get embaressed. and ultimately quit. do ur level best and never either quit ur job , pick up a fight or back bite her. all the best
2007-08-28 12:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should confront her and ask her why she is doing this. Ask her if she's always been an expert or if she had to learn first, too. If that doesn't work, try to ignore her. Usually, if a person doesn't get the reaction they expected, they will eventually stop because its no longer fun. Good luck!
2007-08-28 12:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by I don't know! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she does something wrong, I would point it out to her. If she gets gruff about it, I would tell her that I am simply doing what she does. Every time she says something to you after that in regards to your performance say "You do it too like when you did ....."
Criticizers can usually dish it out well but have a hard time taking it back in. In time she will pipe down.
2007-08-28 17:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Alletery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to fix this is to make friends with the old bat. During a break, ask to speak with her in private. Calmly tell her you feel that she is being overly critical of your work. Tell her that you appreciate that she has more experience and then ask her to help you in a kinder way.
2007-08-28 13:23:32 · answer #9 · answered by Suzy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it! This is life! Females are mean especailly when it comes to protecting their territory! She obviosuly feels threatened by you. Mind your own business and do your job to the best of your ability. Your hard work will be noticed!
2007-08-28 13:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Laurie P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋