I got into a fight with my husband over the phone about how much he works and he said if he didn't work a lot we wouldn't be able to afford our house or the nice things he buys me. But I sort of don't think that's important don't get me wrong I like getting gifts as much as the next woman and I do like our house but I'll settle for less if he spent more time with me instead of at his office. So what's more important spending time with your spouse or material things?
2007-08-28 12:36:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I go through the same crap trying to explain to my mom that I don't want a man that's just gonna "take care of me"
I love the relationship I'm in, but my mom doesn't think he makes enough $ b/c I also work.
She gets all crazy too like "when are you guys ever gonna be able to afford a house?"
To me being a happy person DOES NOT require owning a house. I'm an organic, biological human being, my entire existence does not revolve around the "box" I put myself in or the plastics and big screens that I can occupy my brain with.
She gets so mad b/c I say I could be happy living under a coconut tree as long as I have my man and his love with me :)
2007-08-28 12:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're missing is always more important. If your husband had a less-demanding job, and you had to scrimp and save to get the bills paid, you would probably feel that paying rent next month was taking on a whole new level of importance. It's not the quantity of time you spend with your spouse, it is the quality. I don't know how my husband does it, but he works a ton (probably an equivalent of 2-3 full-time jobs), and he finds time for "us", too. It might only be an hour on the weeknight, and a couple of hours on the weekend, but we sure treasure the time we get to spend together. Maybe you need to find ways to entertain yourself - then you won't be sitting home counting hours until your husband gets home to grace you with his presence. Do something, have fun. Hopefully, in a few years you'll have some money saved up and he won't have to work as much anymore. At least, this is my husband's goal for the future.
2007-08-28 19:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There has to be a balance.. between work and home, spending time with those ppl who are so important.
Why dont you tell him, instead of the gifts he buys you, you would rather have something more precious to you... his time with you.
To answer your question...... Id rather have the time with my spouse than the material things any day... material things dont give you love, cant cuddle you, cant love you, and cant talk to you, and dont make you happy deep down in side.
2007-08-28 19:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to a friend of mine before and she too would say that him being at home more would bebetter then there big hse nice cars and holidays they go on.
So they both gave up their jobs in office and started a business from home and r sooooo happy with change they made and he saw why she was being the way she was.
Good Luck in whatever happens between u and husband.
2007-08-28 19:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by juniper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly agree with you. I'd rather my husband spent more time with me than work alot. But there's also some considerations to that. I'm not saying I want my husband to be right my my side 24/7 but I want him to make sure that even if he works alot he needs to find time to spend with his family.
2007-08-28 19:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by prettyjewel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would be willing to do with less if it meant that you could spend more time together. Just be honest with him about how you feel. Show him that you appreciate him and not all the things he buys you.
2007-08-28 19:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait hold up!
He buys you gifts? outside of Valentines , birthdays or christmas or anniversaries?.And you dont have to beg him for it????.
Are you kidding me ? lol.
Sorry got off track never met a man who does that .
Spending time is more important always , but he's a male and that's not enough especially depending on what his own parent's marriage was like, Talk to him explain what you feel you need and maybe even make a date night once a week .
Good luck. sigh.
2007-08-28 19:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to have a balance, but ,like you ,I would always be willing to have less material things in order to have time with my loved one. Time is our most precious commodity and working too much in order to buy more is, to me, ridiculous and self-defeating.
2007-08-28 19:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spending time with spouse is way more important than things.
2007-08-28 19:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There needs to be a balance.....its when the scales are tipped unevenly that problems arise. Seek balance. Make your concerns clear, without blaming.
2007-08-28 19:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋