how can i help my child?

Question

my beautiful daughter ( who is five) is barely started her first week of school... the 1 st 2 days she has cried everytime when i leave her with her teachers... is there any way i can prevent this from happening....


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Answer 1

this is perfectly normal. if it lasts beyond the first week, you really need to find out what is going on in the classroom. separation anxiety should decrease over time. if the intensity and duration of her crying is the same or has increased, then something is not right - either with the child or with the classroom/teachers.

did you allow enough time when you dropped her off the first day for her to get acclimated to the classroom. whenever my kids have changed schools/teachers at a young age, i always allowed enough time to gradually leave the room.

also you might want to talk to your daughter at night about the next day and let her know what you expect when she goes to school. you also should offer her verbal reinforcement for awhile for each day she goes into the classroom peacefully.

Answer 2

I read some of the responses before I answered it does not mean you spoiled her my daughter cried her first day of school as well. It was hard for her and myself. My baby was no baby but she will stop on her own. Its a new and strange place for them. Even us as adults get around new people and we feel some type of way. Just over time and years we learned not to cry because we are adults. I suggest you talk to her teacher I am pretty sure she goes through this every year. She may have good answers for you.

Answer 3

Awww, how cute! I remember my girls starting their first day of school! They just said,"Daddy, I dont wanna go!" I remember it like it was yesterday. I am soldier in Iraq currently and I love off memories like these! Cherish them! Anyways, to answer your question there are a few things you can do...Try to do your best to get them interested, in the things that they do in school. DO them at home with you little one. Make her WANT to see what the next day holds...What I did was for the first few days I went into the class with her and sat her down and stayed in the back of the class until the class started. Normally, a child will pay attention to whoever is speaking. Once the teacher started to speak I quietly went out the door. If she starts to whimper a little bit, dont look back cause if you do she will most likely never get over being alone. She will eventually build the self-reliance that she needs to go through a day of school without wondering what Mommy and Daddy are doing. Its a tough method but she needs to know that School is mandatory and that you will not bend on it. She will be fine and for a caring parent like yourself i applaud you! Let me know how she turns out! Most of the time the children who share this "crying on the first day of school" trait normally are the kid geniuses! See ya and I hope I helped you and your brilliant little ray of sunshine!

Answer 4

Well, I think in general kids need anywhere between 10 to 12, 13 hours a sleep, which sounds like a lot but for kids, definitely something that they need.
And the idea is to -- between the parent and child, you have to know what the bedtime is. And once you've established what the bedtime is, then you know, you set a pattern. You do quiet things before its bedtime. This is not the time to be watching TV with an action show. your kid might be too used to u ... start training her ... she has to understand that she has to go to school.

Answer 5

I remember my first day of school. I cried because I thought it would make my mom come back and get me. After stayin there and cryin for MAYBE 10 minutes....I was over it. You're not a bad mother...most kids do cry when they go to school for the first time. Not used to being away...the kid will be fine. Make sure you stay strong and let them know...they are going to school and that's all there is to it. They have a long way to go and you will both be fine.

Answer 6

well...my soon starts school next tuesday...he will be in pre-k...he cried the first few days of head start but in the end he cried cause he didn't want to leave...i think they are just scared of all the other kids.....do you leave her with others often? If not that may be the issue....it will just take a little getting used to but i believe she will be just fine after a few more days...best of luck to you!(and i don't think it is because you spoiled her.)

Answer 7

This is called separation anxiety...

There are many professionals out there that can give you tips. CNN or Fox just did an articla about it.

I experienced this when I was a child. I was afraid that my family would leave when I went to school... (not that I would blame them.) Having the child play a role in their school experience is really important. Let them make the decisions.

Answer 8

It means you've spoiled her, and she's learning to cope. Crying is her only coping mechanism at this time. Chances are, five minutes after you leave, she's just fine. Don't worry, you're not a bad mom if your child cries. Crying is good for kids.

Answer 9

This is natural for a child to do this, Nothing wrong with her and she will learn something called coping with things in life, let her learn this lesson and grow to be a strong person and normal human as she is right now.

Answer 10

my son was the same way for the 1st week. I was just as sad. your letting go of this little person that you love so much to strangers. be strong; she will be just fine. every loving parent goes through this.