i have been friends with this person for since high school but lately i just am starting to feel like were to different. she has become a follower and is trying to find her self the wrong way. she thinks its fun to get drunk she started smoking marijiwana. she says things that she is fully aware will hurt my feelings. i feel like we have become opposites. i find my self not returning heer calls. i'm not sure if i should talk to her or just move on.
2007-08-28 10:40:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's friends like this that you learn to let go of when 'decomposition' sets in... But don't wait until the smell hits you. There's no time like the present.
2007-08-28 10:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think you shouldn't let go of her. Just do things without her. There is nothing wrong being different from your other friends. I have had my best friend since we were in the 2nd grade, its been 20yrs and we are still the best of friends. But let me tell you one thing. We don't like the same type of guy, she smokes weed and drinks, i dont do non of that well these a lot of other things too. But we are their for each other and share our different experience. Talk to her abt the way she treats you or puts you down. If she is really your friend she will understand and stop treating you the way she does. But friends are good to have.
2007-08-28 10:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to talk to her about these changes in her behavior and how it makes you not want to be around her. If she is not understanding and open to listening to what you have to say (especially if it is for her benefit), than yes, it is time to let her go.
It will be very hard because it sounds like you care for her very deeply, but you are making mature responsible decisions for yourself and this is a time when you need to be selfish. I would hate to see you travel down that same road with her just for the sake of friendship.
Also she may not appreciate the things you have to say to her now, but one day she will think back on it and know that you were right.
2007-08-28 10:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by lovebeads1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's so sad. and I'm sorry to hear that she's hurt you. and also sorry that she doesn't have the sense to realize that she's hurting herself.
in all honesty, you're better off without this girl in your life right now. she's not making responsible decisions, she's not being a friend, and she would only end up causing you more pain in the long run.
and you certainly have no reason to return her calls or anything else.
she's just someone who isn't a friend anymore. and she has no right whatsoever to be rude to you or insult you in any way.
just move on with your life, and forget about her.
Best Wishes.
2007-08-28 10:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a good idea to hang around her, its not a good influence for you.
However, its not a good thing to just leave her behind. I have a freind who has fallen into a similiar situation. And even though he's made some wrong choices--he's still my freind and i just can't abandon him ya know.
You may be one of the only GOOD influences in her life. If you pull yourself out of her life completly she'll only be left with the drunks and she'll fall in deeper, she's needs a positive rollemodel in her life so she can see how someone SHOULD live there life.
I don't believe in abandoning friends when they fall of track. Thats when you have to be there for them and pick them back up.
Hope I Helped ^_^
2007-08-28 10:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention you ages, but you did say friends since high school. She has picked her road/smoking/drinking/and hanging with the wrong crowd. So she has made her choice. Now you make your let go, you two are going n different directions. If she comes to her senses later be there for her,but only if she come to you for strength.LET GO.
2007-08-28 10:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how good of friends you two were. Friends of the family, that always seems to go south. But move on, send a Christmas card, a letter every once in a blue moon. That way you both are still friends, but not close friends.
2007-08-28 10:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If discussing it with her doesn't work, I would let go quietly and slowly. If she even notices that you cut her out of your life, it will help her determine who she enjoys(ed) being with more. People grow apart, I had the same experience with pals from HS who I could almost swear I would always be tight with but people change. Hopefully she will change for the better bc shes on the wrong road. Stay put, if she misses you shell find you, and hopefully will apologize for being such a jerk to you.
2007-08-28 10:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by BumblebeeQueen84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time is now. You know it. You are on different paths and sadly your friend is taking a much harder path. It is time to let this go, and maybe when she matures you may be able to become friends again in the future. It is hard to loose a friend that way, and I am sorry you are going through that.
2007-08-28 10:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa's Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it may be time to move on. It sucks to lose good friends, but you should not put yourself in those positions. If shes wants to drink, shes going to drink. Although that's a bad decision, its her choice. If you don't want to deal with her life style you should find away to tell her what she is doing is not okay with you and you don't like it, if shes not willing to change to keep you as a friend, Shes not a very good one to have.
2007-08-28 10:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by xXx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋