Men... may you please answer my question????

Question

You have been in a relationship with a girl you claim you love and she loves you back with all her heart and you know she loves you so much because you feel it inside you. One day you ask her to marry you and she bursts out crying you know she loves you. But all she says is, "this is a big step in life, are you sure you want to do this?" But you know she loves you and you love her... Now my question is, "Would you allow her to think about it?" Would you honor her request??

Or would you automatically take this as a NO and even though she practically begs and says that she was going to say YES all along, and you know she loves you with all her heart.

Answer 1

I am not a religious zelot, but in this case the bible says it best.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

if he truly loves you , you have no worries!

Answer 2

I would expect a Yes or No right away. The part that I would be ok with "thinking about" would be the when. If the love is as you say, of coarse I would allow her time, but would be very offended and hurt without good reason.

However, if the love is as you say, the question shouldn't have been a surprise, so the only reason I can think of as to why the girl would need time would be due to age (too young). When two are in love and the man asks the women to marry him, the moment he wants to remember for the rest of his life is either a tearful or overjoyed "Yes" followed by a energetic embrace. Not, "let me get back to you on that."

Answer 3

Honor Request

Answer 4

i know this. If she dont know, then its the man who should have known that she isnt ready for that. Marriage has a 50% divorce rate today, now most people dont know why. I think its because ppl jump right into marriage then later deciede they were wrong.

This could be the woman's ammo.

On the other hand, they both should know for sure what the other thinks about marriage, and they should at least discussed marriage in their relationship. I do, and I believe that people should know if their partner will say yes and want to marry. Maybe that helps somewhat

Answer 5

I'd let her think about it, but you make it sound so obvious that they are both in love with each other, then why is it such a hard decision for her to make? We people are that much in love, they have usually been in a relationship for a while, and the thought of marriage probably isn't a new idea. I'm not saying the answer will always be yes, but you just make it sound like for him he should know the love is strong enough, I just want to know why that doesn't apply to her then?

Answer 6

That would be a no. If they were truly in love with each other then they knew the time would come when the question would be asked. There was plenty of time to think about the decision before now, so any answer other than "yes" is really a no.

Answer 7

Mind You, I'm already Married. Had My Wife asked for "Time to think about it", I would have thought...
"She needs 'Time to think about it' ? Think about WHAT?
IF 'she was going to say YES all along', then WHY would She ask for 'Time to think about it'?
MEN are the ones afraid of committment, not Women! "

Personally, I would have known this request was a way of preparing Me to hear Her say "NO!". And I would've been right.

Now if it's SOMEBODY ELSE asking a girl I didn't know, then I'd HAVE to say:
"Well, That could just be Her. She could be a very cautious person. Some people tend to rethink decisions that will change thier life, even if they have already made them."

Of course, if She IS a very cautious person, then HE SHOULD already know that and not be bothered giving Her "Time to think about it"....

Mind You, If HE DOESN'T KNOW HER THAT WELL, and She didn't know HIM well enough to expect a bad response, then mabey they don't know each other as well as they thought and getting engaged may have been "rushing things"...

Answer 8

It would concern me if I didn't get a response of yes back and instead got a question of am I sure. Marriage is a big step and shouldn't be taken lightly. With the divorce rate what it is, you should consider speaking to your pastor or spirtual guider whom you feel comfortable with giving you advice. It is a life long committment to one another so I can understand the hesitation. If you love each other it will happen.

Answer 9

I would be hurt to hear that she can't give me an answer at the time of question. However, if I loved her and I knew she loved me ...... I'd give her some time.

Though I would always wonder just why she needed the time. I'm sure she had thought about it in the past. I'm certain that we've talked about the subject before ..... so why the need for this time? Why is she so unsure? What is it about our being linked by promise and paper that has her so unsure? Just what is she questioning with this pause?

Do you get my drift?

Kev

Answer 10

I would hope she would say yes automatically. That would show that she had been thinking of marryng me as well and already knew that was waht she wanted. However if she said she needed time, I would definitely honor that. Marriage is a big step and she may just need time to take it all in.
I definitely wouldn't change my mind to marry her becasue she asked for some time. If I loved her enough to ask her to marry me, I would love her enough for her to take some time to think.

Answer 11

If I love her, I'll give her all the time she needs to think about it. Would I be happy about her not answering right away - probably not. After all I am a guy and I probably have trouble making commitments so asking her to marry me was probably the hard speech I've ever had to make.

But, as I said, I love her and I expect that she will make the right choice.