I ask because I am considering it in the future. My ex and I didn't want to divorce but we didn't get to the courthouse quick enough to get the paperwork away from the judge. Now that the divorce is final we are trying to get back together in hopes we can remarry. We both love one another very much and our divorce was a misunderstanding about mis-information. Moral of the story was not to trust meddling in-laws who spread rumors (that aren't true). I just wonder how successful it is. We are going to counseling and taking it slow. Suggestions? Comments?
2007-08-28 10:13:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents were divorced for 10 year, and wham - got remarried. Still going strong 10 years later!! If you love each other, thats all that matters...You mention rumor spreading in laws and a misunderstanding causing the divorce? Perhaps the two are connected? If you are happy with him, he treats you well, and you are a better person with him - Then let the wedding bells chime (again)!
2007-08-28 10:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a marriage counselor, and in my ten years or so I have counseled a few couples who did this and a few more who considered it but didn't end up getting back together.
It's successful if you are committed to making it work and still deeply love your spouse. Most people, however, know there was a reason they got divorced in the first place.
If your divorce was over a "misunderstanding," I'd say you have a lower chance than most of making it work unless you are committed to trusting your spouse over outsiders in the future. If you let rumors drive your marriage apart the first time, you need to lay some serious ground rules, esp. when it comes to your in-laws. I'm sure they are none too pleased you are considering remarriage and will most likely try and stop it, so be prepared for that.
I think you are very smart to be in counseling and to be taking it slow, esp. if there are children involved. Don't bring it up to the kids, if you have any, as those false hopes can be VERY damaging.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-28 10:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My auntie and uncle have been married to each other 3 times. and divorced from each other twice. This last one has been for 16 years. The first divorce was because she had a last fling before they got married, long story short the baby wasn't his. Second divorce was meddling in laws like you had that spread rumors and miscommunication and misinformation about him.
It took counseling, it took communicating with each other. They are very happy now, but say having those problems made their love stronger in the long run.
2007-08-28 10:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple that got a divorce. They kept in contact after the divorce and a few years later they got remarried, had 2 kids and a couple of weeks ago they celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.
2007-08-28 10:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend, she divorced her husband then one year later they remarried. It didn't work. It was sooo bad. The second time so many people got hurt, the kids, in-laws, jobs were lost, it was bad :0( My friend never bounced back from it either. She's still lost. I pray for her.
I hope that's not your case.
Good luck, and congra's on the second time around.
2007-08-28 10:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by I am what I am 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guy I used to work with remarried his wife 3 times after divorcing her. He said they finally figured out that every relationship has problems and that they just needed to take the time to work them out.
2007-08-28 10:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for six months, divorced and remarried different human beings for 10 years (the two one human beings), this time we've been collectively 6 years and its very good. We the two grew up lots interior the ten years aside.
2016-10-17 05:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father's best friend married a woman and they had 3 children.
After 8 years they got a divorce and remained apart for 10 years.
They got back together and they were married 25 years before she died.
It can work.....but like everything else it depends on the couple.
2007-08-28 10:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to counseling and taking it slow, i think you are doing the right thing, you are right on track! My grandparents divorced when my dad was really young, my grandpa even married someone else, but that didn't last....a few years down the road, my grandparents re-married, and lived happily ever after until my grandpa passed...
i think sometimes we just don't understand what is "meant to be"...is meant to be...good luck, and i hope everything works out for you no matter the decision that you make....
2007-08-28 10:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Janette F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of 2. One personnally and 1 that I work with. And in both cases the second time has worked out great and both have very healthy relationships.
2007-08-28 10:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋