My best friend and I have known each other for 4 years, I started falling in love with her 2 years ago. I thought we had something going on (however slowly), but 3 months ago she got together with another girl (briefly) which caused me to tell her about my feelings. They weren't returned.
I didn't understand, and I still don't understand, why she held me and cuddled with me and flirted with me and asked me out on Valentines and gave me a little teddybear with a heart that said 'I love you' and so many many more things like these if she just saw me as a friend.
It took some time but we managed to salvage our friendship, we basically just pretend that nothing's happened...but I feel so angry sometimes, I want to understand why she acted the way se did. I asked her after she had rejected me but her answer was just 'I dunno, I thought we were just messing'. messing? she told me she loved me! I'm so confused.
Should I bring it up after all this time or should I just let it go?
2007-08-28 09:54:03 · 7 answers · asked by loveless_sselevol 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She was caught in the moment and went along with whatever felt good at the time, you have a right to be angry that she misled you, but if you vowed to move on, then move on.
Forgive her for hurting you, but don't forget. Don't bring it up now and try to make her feel guilty, it won't change anything and she still won't have a good answer.
2007-08-28 10:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound confused by the situation alright. Look, in simplest terms, you can "love a friend" and not "be in love" with them. I have friends that I have know for more years than I want to think about right now. When we write we sign our messages " love you" . Yes, I'm talking about me being male and them being female. But the same thing applies to you and your friend. I have sent them roses over the years, stuffed toys and even silly things that said I love you on it. We can kiss, hug, cuddle and then go on our way knowing that we are best friends, that we "love each other" but we are "in love" with our spouses or significant others. I'm glad you salvaged your friendship, now let the anger go. Enjoy having such a good friend, that "loves you". Now it's time to look for the one who is "in love with you".
2007-08-28 17:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by randy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is not good enough for you, that's all there is to it. Playing games, sounds like.
2007-08-28 17:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by st.uncumber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not read your entire question becasue it was too long. But the answer to the first line is:
If you need to ask that question then the answer is always, just let it go.
2007-08-28 16:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let it go.
You already asked her and her answer was lame.
That tells me she doesn't think you deserve better and you do.
2007-08-28 16:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by JoJo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
see her a little less , but dont bring it up again .
2007-08-28 18:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU THINK YOU'VE GOT TROUBLES. CHECK ME OUT.
2007-08-28 17:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋