Impossible Relationship?

Question

So. I'm a pretty active person, I keep myself in good shape, eat healthy, lift weights, enjoy club sports, etc. My boyfriend of over a year isn't so active. He's gained about 50 pounds over the past year, including 30 pounds this past summer. He's now officially 20 pounds over weight. I'm worried about him. I tried talking to him, and explaining to him that I was worried about his weight, and how much junk food he's started eating, and invited him to come start weight training with me, or go for walks with me a few days a week to get him into a healthier range. He refused. He isn't interested in playing any kind of sports or games, or lifting weights, and he says he just doesn't care about his weight, and is upset and says I'm acting like he's not good enough for me, and why am I trying to change him? At the same time, his mom has had health problems for years because of her weight. He also thinks that 20 pounds overweight isn't a big deal.
I feel crappy. Help?

Answer 1

It's clear he has no regard for his health, nor your concern for his health.

You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. The way I see it, you'll either have to accept him the way he's heading and not nag him, or you need to move on to someone else who "gives a darn" about themselves & your feelings. His lack of concern for his health & your feelings is a pretty good sign he'll be moody and not sensitive to your feelings. By his response to your worries, he's whining you don't think he's good enough, etc. So he's putting it all on you.

I'd find someone else. He clearly doesn't give a flip what you think.

Good luck with the next fella! Life's too short to worry about someone who obviously doesn't care he's a heart attack looking for a place to happen & someone to take care of him with it does!