i dont know whats wrong every month i have my period regualry and then i check what days i am ovulating me and my husband try everyday that i am but im still not pregant we have been trying for the last 4 months and all my pregancy test say negative.
i am ovulating this last couple of days and me and my husband have been trying none stop i just dont know what else to do to boost my chances of becoming pregant im starting to panic if theres something wrong with me or my husband???
please help?
2007-08-28 09:13:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
About 25% of couples get pg in the first month. 60% get pg within 6 months, 75% get pg within 9 months, and 80% get pg by one year. 90% get pg by 18months. The average each month is you have about a 20% chance in any given cycle to get pg.
Also, sex every day will actually lower his sperm count, you should only be doing it every other day.
And women only ovulate for 1 day and the egg is only viable for 6-24 hours.
2007-08-28 09:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to relax. Four months is by no means an abnormal amount of time to have been trying without success. They say even for perfectly healthy couples it can take up to one year. Each month you have about a 25% chance of conceiving, so it can happen the first month, or it may take several tries. Hang in there, once it happens you won't care how long it took to get there, just be patient. Also...they say stress can affect your fertility. So if you're stressing about it too much, it could be altering when you ovulate, and throw your attempts off track. Just take on the attitude that it will happen when it's supposed to happen...not a day too soon or too late. Many women find they finally get pregnant when they stop worrying about it...so try not to become obsessed, it may help you get pregnant or at least improve your quality of life while trying! Take this time to enjoy your freedom and time with your husband, and prepare your home and body as best you can for an upcoming pregnancy. Also - doctors actually say having sex every OTHER day around the time of expected ovulation may be better than every day. This is because the quality of the sperm is better if it has a chance to "build up", and it stays alive in a woman's body for up to 72 hours anyway. Seriously, unless you have some particular reason to think otherwise...there's no reason to think anything is wrong at this point. If you continue trying for a year or more and still no pregnancy, then it might be worth a trip to the doctor to see if anything is going on that can be helped. Best of luck!
2007-08-28 16:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by van girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for four months as well...so far with no luck. I am incredibly discouraged. The worst part is that my body is acting so bizarre. One month my breasts were hurting more than they had ever hurt in my life and I was sooooo sure I was pregnant and got a negative. This month I got what I guess was the flu because I was sick and throwing up and was really hoping it was morning sickness but I just got the negative. I broke down in hysterical tears and was wailing to my husband that I didn't think we could have kids and that there was something wrong.
On my lunch today I bought the book "Taking Charge Of Your Fertility" because so many women recommended it. I haven't had a chance to read it but it looks pretty helpful. And trust me, I thought I had nothing left to learn because of my crazy online searches for TTC.
I think we're all just programmed into thinking that as soon as we have unprotected sex we'll be pregnant...hell, that has been drilled into us ever since we had our periods. The truth is that it usually takes a healthy couple 4-6 months to get pregnant. I do understand how you feel though. I look around and just see babies everywhere...and a lot that weren't planned. It's hard to stay positive but just remember that there probably isn't anything wrong with you and that you'll have a beautiful baby in the near future. Keep trying and don't give up!!!!
2007-08-28 16:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the ob/gyns office. They will do a pap exam, make sure everything is looking healthy, and then do a blood draw after your period is over to make sure your hormones will support a pregnancy. They can also test your husbands count/ viability. With insurance it would be about $100 for that much info. Without, maybe $500 in all.
Don't wait long, the younger you are, the better chance you have at getting fertility help and it actually working.
2007-08-28 16:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by quirky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Megan
I kind of know how you feel, I know its challenging, but try to relax and do whatever else you can do practically to improve your chances...
I have been doing the same for the past 8 months..and I know the ongoing negative test is upsetting for both partners....I myself, have been taking Agnus Castus, my parner Saw Palmetto, both are natural supplements which help to strengthen the reproductive systems......have been eating healthily...taking my Folic Acid....
But nothing is happening...so due to my age (36) I have gone to my GP for preliminary fertility tests and my partner too, to give a sperm sample. We will just have to take it from there. In the UK (I am not sure where you are in the world) if you are over 35 and have been trying for 6 months, it is advised you visit your GP, 12 months if you are under 35, although he/she may see you beforehand.
From what I have read, it takes most couples 9-12 months to conceive....and there are many things which affect your chances....stress, diet, female & male low fertility or infertility, couple compatability (in terms of reproducing!) etc etc
Hope all turns out well
2007-08-28 16:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by jinjin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex everyday (I'm talking about the week you are fertile) can decrease the amount of sperm released in each ejaculation. It may help increase your chances of conceiving if you have sex every other day. Also, it is considered normal for it to take 12 months to conceive when you are a healthy couple, having sex several times a week. I know that doesn't really help but it's the truth. It took me nine LONG months to conceive my first son but I always say now that every tear was worth it because he was meant to be my son. Not every doctor will help after only four months of trying but you may want to visit your doctor and just have a chat about your concerns. Good Luck.
2007-08-28 16:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes good things come to those who wait. If you know your body and when you are ovulating then chances are it will happen. To put your mind at ease you can both go to the doctor to make sure you are healthy and reproductive organs are all good and he has a healthy sperm count. Sometimes couples get pregnant at the drop of a hat sometimes others never do. Only God knows and ultimately it is up to him. I have been able to have 6 kids and never had problems and it does make me feel blessed and I wonder why God gives some people kids and others he does not but he is God and only he knows. God bless and I hope you get a little one.
2007-08-28 16:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic now if you're only 4 months into TTC. Visit the dr and have a check-up if you are worried that something might be wrong.
2007-08-28 19:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the dr and get checked out you and your husband. There might not be anything wrong and they can help lead you in the right direction. good luck
2007-08-28 16:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by mrshull1105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it could be that your husband has no sperm so i would get a docter to check. and if that is the case then you could always adopt. or get someone elses sperm enjected into your body.
Good luck. i hope it works out for the best!
2007-08-28 16:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋