Help! First time with my boyfriend?

Question

I turned 16 and for 6 months I've been dating a good male friend I've known since we were little kids, who is 2 years younger. Since we are so close we're practically soul mates and we love each other, we both decided to lose our virginity together. The odd thing is he's just starting to grow so he's still skinny, short and his legs and chest are completely hairless, but I was surprised to find out he's so well hung, his penis must have been over 6 inches. We tried making love but it took over 10 minutes of relaxing and repositioning before he finally fit all the way in. By that time, it was starting to feel really good, but he was only able to last a few seconds. Do all boys make weird faces and drool during climax, or did I do something wrong? Is it normal for particular parts of a boy's body to grow quicker while other parts seem to be just starting puberty? Are there any exercises I can do so he'll fit easier and to help make him last longer? Thanks so much for any help.

Answer 1

I am surprized he lasted longer than 3 seconds. You both did things right except you probably didn't use a condom which means you could very well get pregnant. If you had used a condom he would have come before you got it on. And yes, guys will go through the strangest things when they come or go through puberty. It is normal. Weird but normal. The only exercises you can do to help him, and yourself, is buy a nice cucumber and practice with it. Then you will know better what it should feel like and be a little broken in for him. You don't need a condom on the cucumber, but you do need one on him. By the way, chances are in your area what you are doing is illegal and you could both be put in juvey hall for it. Be careful.

Answer 2

Well, I'm glad that you and your boyfriend have decided to do this together and I wish all the best to the two of you. One thing you can do is use KY Lubricant Jelly or Astroglide. This enhances the body's natural lubricant that is produced when the female body is aroused. Read the directions carefully though. These are both very good brands that are safely compatible with latex condoms. They are water soluable, and water based.

Before using artificial lubricant however, try doing things that get one another excited for love making. Do things that get one another excited, such as foreplay. But, what ever you do make sure that you are both comfortable with what you are doing.

To answer your question about boys making weird faces, yes - that does happen. Drooling, I can't say that that has ever happened but you did not do anything wrong at all. As for the body growing, that I cannot answer. I was already an adult when I first had intercourse.

Also, a lot of guys do ejaculate quite quickly when they make love the first few times. This is normal, as they are getting used to a totally new sensation that their bodies have never felt before. This will change, and he will have more endurance the more often you make love. Do not worry.

But, what ever the two of you do - use condoms and another form of birth control such as the pill. Better be safe than sorry. Enjoy!
I hope you enjoy your sexualities together.

Answer 3

First, you did not do anything wrong, in fact you did very well for your first time. You got him inside you in only 10 minutes and it felt good, that's much better than average.
(It took me and my bf about half an hour our first time.)
As for him being thin and hairless - I like smooth. Some guys never grow much hair, but if he does it can be fun for you to watch, see where it grow and how thick.
All men make faces when they are about to come, so do girls, because it's a very intense feeling.
It is normal for different parts to grow at different rates at the start of puberty - feet, ears, penis. It's the same for girls, some even grow one breast sooner than the other.
He is lucky, and so are you that he is already so big.
As for getting him to fit easier, the best exercise is more sex - you will gradually stretch.
And as for helping him last longer, the best way is, again, more sex - he will gain more stamina and control the more often you do it.
I know I'm not supposed to be advising teens to have sex, but heck, your body is DESIGNED to have sex and you are going to do it anyway, you might as well feel good about it. It's not wrong. Your supposed to be interested in sex, it's natural.
Besides, everybody in the whole world has sex, it's the most common activity after BREATHING.
As for all that "statutory rape" stuff, you are within 4 years of his age, so it's ok. Federal law says, as long as he's more than 12 and you are 4 years or less difference, it's not against the law. Different states have different laws about it tho.
Birth control WOULD be a good idea - a pill prescription for you or condoms for him. you don't need your parents permission to get the pill in most places.

Answer 4

Well,as a mother of a daughter who is 18 I wish you would have dicussed this first with an adult that you trust before finding out things the way you are.
However @ 14.5 years he did the best he could and activities like this do take time maybe you two could wait a little longer and enjoy each other in other ways it not that you did anything wrong and I applaud you for asking anyone such personel questions. In time you both will be more comfortable and it will only get better I do recommend doing other things though love lasts and is always better when you are more comfortable give it time Hun it will get better

Answer 5

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Recent polls have shown that the average length of intercourse is usually anywhere between 2 to 12 minutes. Most often those diagnosed with premature ejaculation climax in less than a minute or two, and there are even those who ejaculate before there is any sort of penetration. In all actuality, “too short” is really just a matter of opinion. The most important factor is if a man feels that he is unable to control his ejaculation and is frequently climaxing before he would like. Any man who feels that this is a problem for him may be suffering from some form of premature ejaculation.
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Answer 6

Can't say you should wait until you are married....that is moot point, right? :-)

If he is still going through puberty (you say he is skinny?), then he still has to finish puberty and it can hit him quickly - unlike girls, where puberty takes several years. Just watch him in the next 6 months or so....(it is normal for parts to grow at different times).

And, yes, guys do make funny faces during sex. And, no, you didn't do anything wrong. The face making and drooling are his way of expressing his pleasure.

As ya'll go further with sex, it will get to the point where it does last longer and feel better.

Answer 7

Oh boy...you are only 16 yr old. You have a lot of things and time to experience before this. Anyhow, to answer to your question. Different ppl act differently during intercourse or any sexual experience. Maybe this was his first time; therefore, he couldn't be able to control his feelings just yet.

There is not much you can do to fit him or have him fit you. It's just how you are ready for him or not at the time. Lubricant may help too, if you're not ready enough. Through time, he will learn better on how to control his short coming.

Just be very careful. Please be well protected if you decided to continue to be active. You are too young, please be aware of STD and pregnancy.

Best wishes to you.

Answer 8

Oh Boy! If you get pregnant at 16 to a 14 year old father!!!!!!!!!!!! You better pray very hard that you are not pregnant!
You are to young to have sex. You are not responsible enough for the consequences!
P.S. you better go to sex ed. class and learn a little before you start experimenting! Or have a talk with your Mom.

Answer 9

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These include the start-and-stop method and the squeeze technique. A combination of these techniques along with sexual counselling and medication (either using an anaesthetic cream or an oral tablet) is recommended.

Answer 10

the boy is still young for you..boys usually can have normally sex at the age of 14 (that means that he's just at the begining) and girls at 13.You haven't done somethin wrong. Most times that somethin goes wrong at sex are because of the man who does the ''job''.For a longer sex use rubbers which slow time he comes.