I am a 17 year old girl?

Question

And my boyfriend is 18! I think i could be pregnant. im waitin 1 more week befor doin the test (next time i see him) We get on very well we never fight and are much in love. But people say young people cant be good parents? We think we will be able to cope. what do you people out there think? I just want to hear from people whos been there be 4! (we are ok for money too)

Answer 1

having a baby puts strain onmost relationships if you think yours is strong enough and you can both do it and want to do it go ahead

Answer 2

That's really young sweetie!! It's good to see that you are willing to take responsibility for this child you two have created though, that's more than a lot in your situation could say! You'll have to grow up fast and there will be struggles along the way, just be sure you two remember what is most important in this life and not give up on each other or the child. My mother was 18 when she had my older sister, me just over a year later, and had my youngest sister just over a year after that!! The cool thing is that you'll be a young parent - what kid wouldn't think that's cool? LOL, and they'll be all raised and grown up and you'll still be young enough to live life. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders - despite the criticism you may get, I think you are making a wonderful decision.

Answer 3

I don't agree that being able to drink alcohol means that you are old enough to have children. The only thing that will determine your success or failure is whether you are committed to each other and your children NO MATTER WHAT. Being a parent is a huge strain on sleep, money, patience, and your relationship as husband/wife. It's okay that you don't agree on everything but do you respect each other in the process? It's a learning experience for everyone and if they tell you any different they are lying to you. It's not ideal having a baby that young but it can be done. Forget the statistics and try to make yourself a success for your spouse and your child because that's all that matters. If you both can realize where your commitments are then I'd say you have just as much of a chance as any of us.

Answer 4

If you two really love each other, and have the financial means I think it'll be great. I got pregnant with my daughter at 18, and had her at 19. My boyfriend was 18 at the time. The only thing that was hard is we did not have a good relationship with each other and I had no support from my family. We were also having hard times financially and I had to go on public aid. If you have the financial ability to raise a child ( that is really the only hard part) and have a happy loving relationship with the father and have family support I think its great! Congrats, I hope everything goes really well for you. I am sure you will be a great mom.

Answer 5

I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant. I had only been with my bf for 7 months when I found out. My daughter just turned 3 on Sunday...and is a healthy happy little girl. Don't let anybody tell you that you can't be a good parent just because you're 17. There are women in their 30's who aren't capable of raising children. Just make sure that it's something you really want and can manage. There's no reason to keep the baby if you know you're not going to care for it.

Answer 6

don't worry what others think or say!!!! I agree and matbe you do too that most other 17 and 18 year olds are not mature and willing or able to support a baby or have a family but you can if you want to. there will be things you have to sacifice..such as your free time and friends ..so much for sleep overs and wild parties
I got married 3 months after I turned 17 my husband was 18, we got pregnant 3 months later... i lost the baby and was sooo sad ...and angry at others commetns of "oh your too young to be parents , you won't be able to raise a baby properly...blah, blah,blah ,blah...
we tried again for almost 2 years before I was able to get pregnant all the while I heard "there is no rush your still too young...."
while i was pregnant with my son we purchased our own home and I turn 20 just one week before he was born...I breastfeed him for a year, he was an early talker and walker I really liked to work with him and i was never to old to get down on the floor and play with him!!! he is now a healthy 4 year old... we still own our home , and have another son on the way in NOVEMBER!!
don't listen to other people you will do just fine... get a good support group to help you... weather it's family or friends...I've found that I can relate to other pregnnat women on www.i-am-pregnant.com ..they have been very helpful and supportive of me... good luck I wish you the best!

Answer 7

I had a friend who had a baby during our senior year in high school, so she was about your age. She was a great mom! The father of her baby skedaddled, but then she met a guy who was wonderful to her and loved her baby, too.

She had lots of support from her parents, who helped with child care while she was in school and working, and I know that made a big differerence. After high school, she went on to college and became a nurse. I haven't seen her in a while, but I'm sure she's doing well.

Don't let anyone tell you that you can't be good parents. You can. It's a lot harder when you're young, but it is possible. Just learn all you can about how to take care of yourself while you're pregnant (if you are), be sure to go to the doctor regularly, and learn all you can about how to take care of your baby.

And if you're not pregnant, talk to your doctor about birth control, so that you don't find yourself in this situation for real next time. Just because you *can* do it, doesn't mean you *should*.

Answer 8

I got pregnant at 17 and it was the best thing I have ever done.
I am 32 now and have a great son who is independant, mature and full of life.
I home educate him and have done for years.
The relationship fell apart when my son was 3, so I was a single mum for a while.
I then married a great guy (iwasn't married to my sons biological father), and we have built a fantastic family life.
I put my life on hold for my son, and am thinking about a career now.
Don't listen to other people. Young parents, old parents, that doesn't matter, what matters is that you can love and provide for a child.
Good luck for the future, keep us posted.
pippa x x x

Answer 9

I personally think that you are a bit too young, but if you are pregnant and happy in your relationship then good luck to you. I wanted children in my early 20's but it never happened and am now 31 and expecting my first baby in January. It doesnt matter how old you are to be good parents, babies dont come with instructions so everyone has to learn from scratch. You sound like you have your head screwed on. Hope everything works out for you x

Answer 10

I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 23. We are having our first child and we do fight alittle more then we use too but it doesn't me we don't love each other. Fighting is a part of a relationship. I'm sure you guys will fight but thats called being in a relationship. Don't let people tell you you can't do something having a child is hard but you guys can make it. My parents told me it's gonna be hard and pretty much told me I would be a bad parent but I think they are wrong. young people can be good parents nobodys perfect at raisin children. Good luck!

Answer 11

I you are pregnant then go for it! Lots of younger people have had babies and been great parents to their child. So you can easily do the same. People say it puts strain on a relationship, but im 16 and my boyfriend is 15 and im due in 3 weeks 2 days and we are very happy together and if anything its brought us closer together.