For example, today my fiance wanted to go and pick up some motorcycle parts that he had ordered, and I really wanted to use our truck (the only vehicle we own) to go and pick up our daughter from school. He said, "I need to go and get this stuff-you can walk!" So I had to walk almost a mile and a half in 95 degree heat, pushing a stroller, because HE didn't want to wait 10 minutes for me to drive up there and come back. It's like his plans and agendas always come before mine, and it really grates on my nerves sometimes. Also when I go shopping or to run errands, I come back and the kids are running wild and the house is a disaster area. He just lies on the couch and asks me what I'm so upset about.
2007-08-28 08:20:27 · 10 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To the answerer who called me a "looser":
1. There is no need for name calling.
2. It's spelled LOSER!!
2007-08-28 08:30:45 · update #1
I had a husband who believed his time was more valuable than mine, however, I would NEVER let him MAKE me walk to pick up a child, I don't care if he threw a massive temper tantrum which he usually did anyway. I was a stay at home mom when I had my children so yes, he believed that after going to work, he was ENTITLED to take a nap before dinner, which I made and the children were MY responsibility.
Wait....I got on a tangent, hon, sorry, that's why he's not my husband anymore.
Mine didn't change no matter what I did or said, your's probably won't either.
2007-08-28 08:51:27 · answer #1 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't do that. Your hubby should put his family which is you and your children first on the plate. I don't see why he would want to let his children and especially you wander the streets because he felt his motorcycle parts were more important. I guess you can either talk to him and make this situation better or continue to let him do what he is doing. If there's no improvements you and your kids are better off without his uncaring behavior.
2007-08-28 15:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to love you more and be more considerate, help him by talking to him a lot but not accusingly, lovingly. I stay at home and to a great extent it's true his time and energy is more valuable in monetary terms, and let's face it you need money. However that does not mean he should treat me as second in the equation. It's all about learning to love each other and putting the other person before you.
2007-08-28 22:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's pretty bad. sorry, but mine's not like that. when we first had kids, he didn't really get what was so difficult about running a household but after he saw it first hand, he changed his tune. he's never been one to think his time was more important though. sorry you have to live with a guy like that.
2007-08-28 15:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I stayed home, he did. Now he wonders why, when we are relocating, I don't want to take a job that won't be as "important" as his or won't make as much money. I just told him, "because I don't want you throwing it in my face and acting like your play time is more important than my free time because you 'work hard' like I don't".
2007-08-28 15:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a sign of what the future is going to be like it's ovious he doesn't see you as his equal. the hell if i would marry him. i dont think it would matter even if you had a job. anytime he would make you walk in the heat. that was totally un called for
2007-08-28 15:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by CHERISH 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well not mine husband. if it got to do with our kids , they are always first. And if it had to do with some thing that got to do with me or himself we take turns . We help each other out. I feel sorry for you. You should treat him like he treats you , to teach him how it feels and you'll see how he'll change. Good luck with him
2007-08-28 15:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Esperanza 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't respect you….what a freakin loser to treat you like this, and frankly, what a freakin loser to take it.
edit...Sorry to call you a loser, it was more intended for your husband. I just don't understand why a women would put up with such treatment unless she is a loser, or is insecure or most likely both. My wife and daughter come first no matter what.
2007-08-28 15:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
making you and your kid walk home in the heat was very inconsiderate,i think you should tell him so too
2007-08-28 15:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.He always puts us before himself! i love my hubby
2007-08-28 15:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋